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I am a 20 year-old female, and I consider myself to be straight, and although I have a few fantasies about women, I feel like they are more curiosities than real sexual or romantic attraction. I have recently become friends with a FTM transgender man, and I find myself very sexually attracted to him. The fact that I am attracted to him makes me very uncomfortable. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice to help me approach what I am feeling, and process this within my own concept of my identity as a straight woman.
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- Hey, As a 20 year old FTM transman I can tell you that there is NO better feeling for me when a self-identified straight woman admits that she has feelings for me. I understand that it's been making you feel uncomfortable, but I'm curious as to why exactly. You see, when you're a straight woman dating a transman, you're still considered straight in the eyes of society. Isn't that awesome?! When people walking down the street see what appears to be a male and female together, they think "straight couple." That is of course dependent on how far along the particular individual is in their transition. It's more difficult for the individual (and even the couple) to "pass" in society when hormone treatment hasn't begun. Basically, you're attracted to someone who is mentally a man, but can relate to all the issues females face. From my POV, you can scarcely find a bio-male who fits that bill. Really, it's not the "parts" that matter, it's the brains. Hope that helps!
- —Guest Heath
