Readers Respond: What Can You Do if You are a GLBT Teen with a Crush on Someone Straight?

Responses: 100

It is really common for GLBT teens to have feelings for their friends, but what do you do if you are gay and have a straight crush?

This is a topic that has come up a lot in the community forum. As one teen says,

"I have this crush on this boy. He was really adorable and was a skater...We never really talked except over Myspace, and he claimed to be straight. I just wish that i could have him. But he keeps only going out with chicks. I want him to give me a chance! What should i do?"

Ever been in a similar situation? Share what was it like below!

why me?

i am in the predicament where i have a crush on someone who show siqns of flirtinq with me but has a qirlfriend. i don't "talk" to him, but we'll say hi. so, recently, i started addinq gay and bisexual quys on my MySpace and Facebook paqe and now i have an urqe to qo out with someone. just a few days aqo i finally told myself that "i am okay with beinq qay" and now i don't know how to qet into the scene. i am so confused and i find myself feelinq desperate when that is definitely not my intention. i need help!

—Guest secretive.

Oh i know the feeling

Im in the same situation as you, and i've had a crush on my friend whose straight for almost two years. he has a girlfriend, and i was lurking at his myspace recently, and he put unsure for his orientation when he used to put straight. oh, well long story short im going after him hehe.

—Guest RazzleDazzle

sweet love

Yeah Im 15 and this guy Josh is 19 and I met him 2 months ago and the night I met him he was like flirting and grabbing me and stuff so I thought he liked me a lil bit. So I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM. and One night i went over to his house and we were playing this game called Tekken 6 on xbox360. And I said I bet I can beat you in wrestling in real-life! And he said bring it babe as a joke. and so we started wrestling for like 5 minutes then he pinned me down and we were laughing and right when I looked into his eyes and he looked into mine he leaned in and started to kiss me and then make out with me. I WAS UNBELIEVABLY HAPPY :DD. So now we have this secret love that nobody knows about ;). So when ur hanging with a guy u like wrestle him or something you never know what will happen :)

—Guest mattheww

sorry

Yeah Im 15 and this guy Josh is 19 and I met him 2 months ago and the night I met him he was like flirting and grabbing me and stuff so I thought he liked me a lil bit. So I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM. and One night i went over to his house and we were playing this game called Tekken 6 on xbox360. And I said I bet I can beat you in wrestling in real-life! And he said bring it babe as a joke. and so we started wrestling for like 5 minutes then he pinned me down and we were laughing and right when I looked into his eyes and he looked into mine he leaned in and started to kiss me and then make out with me. I WAS UNBELIEVABLY HAPPY :DD. So now we have this secret love that nobody knows about ;). So when ur hanging with a guy u like wrestle him or something you never know what will happen :)

—Guest matthew

same here

yeah im a junior and i used to like my best freind but like most crushes it faded. now i like another guy.we sit nexts to eachother and fool around ALOT.i think he likes me cuz whenever we are alone he holds my hand.we joke around saying we are going out ,but is it for real or is it just puppy love?

—Guest ※※♪♪※※

same here

yeah im a junior and i used to like my best freind but like most crushes it faded. now i like another guy.we sit nexts to eachother and fool around ALOT.i think he likes me cuz whenever we are alone he holds my hand.we joke around saying we are going out ,but is it for real or is it just puppy love?

—Guest ※※♪♪※※

love crush

Now i am not gay but, i know what you are going through. you see i think i am in love with this girl but, the only problem is that i don't know if she like me. so this pass vacation i try to remember all the moments me and her share together trying to figure out if there some sign that she feel the same way and i figure out some i am over analysing the whole problem to much. so i said to myself next time i see her i tell her how i feel if i fall flat on my face than i know that i try so wish me luck her i go

—Guest let the stars decide

I know what you mean

Ever sinse i moved to a new school about two years ago i really really liked this guy... and of cause i fall for the wrong guy... so i know what you mean... this guy is a christain and hates gays, so i am 100% sure that he does not like me back.. but yet he seems to never have any girlfriends... so maybe he is gay and just does not like me... but i do know how it feels to like someone and them not liking you back... and it is not nice and i dont wish it for any one... so try watch who you fall for because some times it will never be... this is not like the movies where beautiful acters "fall-in-love" this is the real world and a lot of people are very very anti gay... so watch out...

—Guest Brendon

Good God! I think I love him

There is boy in my school that Ive known since the beginning of 9th grade, I am a Junior now. I wasn't very good friends in 9th grade but the next year I sat next to him in two classes, but whenever I talked to him I could never make eye contact until later into the year. When I looked in his eyes I felt really warm inside and that If I were to die at that moment, it would be ok because I felt my life was complete. He might be gay but IDK, he has a girlfriend but he is always touching me. In Bio I was his partner for a class project where the teacher assigned us as "parents" and we were to create(draw) our own child. To determine characteristics we were to flip a coin, my hand slipped and i reached for the coin and we held hands for like 5 secs. Since that day we have coincidentally held hands for a couple of secs a few times more. This year I only see him twice every 2 days. Its not like we really we dont talk but its also not like we hang out everyday. But I think I love him.

—Guest is not sure

I'm desperate

I am a sophomore and I know I am not straight, nor am I 100% gay. I think I am just Bi. Anyways, I really really like this guy at my school, we aren't great friends nor are we only 2 acquaintances. I met him last year when we started high school and I liked him since. He has a girlfriend I am sure he isn't gay. I really really want him and I am always thinking about him. When I am at home or somewhere else, I wish i could be there at his side [I cannot stand being apart from him for too long )= ] I know he will never have feelings for me but I wish that I can at least get up the courage to tell him someday.

—Guest That Guy

Just go with the flow.

Hey all you GLBT Tenns :). I have just told this straight guy that I had a crush on him and he rejected me:( I was sad but kind of relief too because I didnt know if he was the right one.I would like to tell all of yall what i regret doing that day I told him so that you wont do the same mistake.im a sophmore, bi, and had a crush on this smart, quite, cute guy in my history class. I would checkfor any possible signs if he was into guys and found some which made me think that i had a chance with him. One thing i regret is trusting some random girl who knew him to give him a note i wrote him because she never gave it to him! Another thing is i wish i was atleast friends with him before I told him cause i think that telleing him I had a crush on him and barely knowing him was a bad thing to do. What i would say is just get to know the person you like and then tell them, cause you know what they say,"It's better to ask and be rejected than to neve ask at all".

—Guest Bryan

It's the same

I always go to his house just to have a sleepover with him. He doesn't mind at all. At night, I just simply curl up on his bed and get close to him. Speaking about it sounds sick. But overall its the same as Guest Anon.

—Guest who has the same situation as Guest Anon

WTP

I've known I was gay since 8th grade now, and the only person I've told is my sister. I'm a sophmore now. I also told her about my huge crush (it is now actually much more than a crush). There is this guy in my advisory and xc team that i've liked since october. He is so hot, and he talks to me, and laughs at my jokes and i laugh at his, cause he is really funny. There are a lot of signs that he is gay; his best friend is a girl and he dresses really well, and is extremely touchy feely with me. I've only hung out with him outside of school when he invited me to a diner, and it was just me, him, and other friends. This was a few weeks ago, and I wish every single day that it would turn into something more. but, he does always make gay jokes (even though he definitly does not hate them) and he keeps telling me about this huge crush he has on this new freshmen who his my locker buddy. I wish he would see me more than just a casual friend, and as a good freind and even better, a bf

—Guest Hoping that it might move foward

This girl.

Everyone else is posting their story. So here we go. I'm bi, and I know that. I have a girlfriend and she's awesome. But I'm in GED classes at my school and there's this girl I like. Her name is Sandy. :) She's new to the class, but I can't keep my eyes off her. She's stated that she's bi curious so that helps me out a little bit. She's so sexy and cute and I love all her clothes and she's so nice, too. But Idk what to do. I have a gf but I realllyyy like this other girl. And I kind of want to ask her out. If I told my best friend, she'd assume I'd get over it in a week. But I really like her. :(

—Guest The Girl's A Straight Up Hustler

Why Is Everything So Complicated...

I'm a girl, and I'd always thought that I was straight. I'd dated a few guys, but it never worked out. I just wasn't feeling anything. So, about a year ago, I began to feel something for my best friend, who's also girl. Problem is, I have no idea whether she's straight or bi, mostly because we never really brought that topic up. I tried ignoring how I felt, because I'd realized I loved her.... well, was IN love with her. Things got A LOT worse. I began getting butterflies when she was near me, and noticed how sexy she was. Now I wish I could tell her how I feel, but we've been best friends so long, I don't know if I want to risk it.... What should I do??

—Guest InLoveAndInTrouble