Readers Respond: What Can You Do if You are a GLBT Teen with a Crush on Someone Straight?

It is really common for GLBT teens to have feelings for their friends, but what do you do if you are gay and have a straight crush?

This is a topic that has come up a lot in the community forum. As one teen says,

"I have this crush on this boy. He was really adorable and was a skater...We never really talked except over Myspace, and he claimed to be straight. I just wish that i could have him. But he keeps only going out with chicks. I want him to give me a chance! What should i do?"

Ever been in a similar situation? Share what was it like below!

@guest idkdude

So I just saw your comment & that's exactly what I like about guys! Yea I'm not a 'girly' gay but I don't have nothing against them either & you described yourself as the guy im looking for! you can email me at dec199623@yahoo.com

—Guest Christ

Middle School

Hi, I am in middle school .. 8th Grade. And I just met this one guy, his name is Max. And he is so cute.. But straight :( I love him so much and he doesn't know im gay! I dont want to tell him... He bareley knows me anyway... but man i just want to cuddle with him! Hes the cutest thing ever

—Guest Whyyyyyy

I like someone straight

Well I like this guy and I do and I kinda lied to get him to kiss me and he really likes my friend but does that mean I have a chance with him? O mean he said he'll kiss me and he was being serious, and I'm really curious as to see weather he's Bi, gay, or just curious.

—Guest Victor

So Confused…

I'm turning 15, and recently came out to my friends about being demisexual biromantic. They were very supportive and things went on as normal. But now… For almost a year I've had a crush on one of my closest friends, but then she told me she didn't think she'd keep any of her high school friends. I really like her - she's funny, smart, beautiful and she makes me feel good about myself, which is something I rarely feel. I want to tell her my feelings for her, but I don't want to ruin our friendship because I know she's straight. Any advice?

—Guest Gumi

You can do it!

Im 16 and Bi. I like this boy (Lets call him Chomp his nickname) Chomp is a sweet guy and I told him that I liked him and he (basicly) said "Ok. No thanks but your still cool." So just try! If he/she turns you down then fine, thier loss.

—Guest Nick 274

Can't help it

hi im a typical bi sophmore in high school, i have known my best friend for about 8 years. I didnt start liking him until 4 years ago when he moved to my school. Since we started high school, we're not as close but we still have classes together. Im like him so much that i try to time my walks just right so i could meet up and talk to him at his locker. He is the hottest guys i've ever seen and i really like him; everytime i see him i always get butterflies in my stomach. I sometimes stare at him in class but its obvious so when he sees me i always try to cover it up with a smile. Bad part is that i dont know if hes gay or not. I've always been too scared to ask him. He's had a girl friend before but i always see him acting gay at school. im so confused. i try to talk to him but he always has these girls crowding around him all the time. i just really like him but i dont know what to do T-T

—Guest Wolf

Was my response wrong?

I came from the least homophobic country in the world so when I was in high school everyone knew that I was gay. So my only problem was my crush (I'm not that kick-ass brave guy that goes to his crush and say his feelings). When he found out I had a crush on him he started flirting me, but that ticked me off cause he had a GF so I told him to leave me alone (sorta). He kept on flirting though. Kinda made me hate my best friend for telling him I had a crush on him. So I started avoiding him and it got awkward,cand I was missing the times that he didn't know cause during that time it was like he was my friend (we actually play like we're flirting at each other sometimes which is my fav but didn't mean anything at all to him). 5years after my high school graduation and the pacific ocean between us I'm still not talking to him ( we're friends on FB though).

—Guest Ayamelicious

ruined my life

Hey! He shouldve kissed you. All and all, dont blame yourself for emotions you cannot control. You sound like a nice guy. Finds you a new man. Anyone else needs advice or want to talk, my email is dennismorris22@gmail.com.

—Guest dennis

Similar Problem??

Okay so I'm a 14 year old bisexual guy and I have this crush on the guy...whom We'll call 'D'. Last year when I moved to the school I'm at now, He was really nice to me and was basically my first friend there. We talked all the time and now were in High School and I really like him a lot. In the beginning of the year we talked a lot but now we don't talk much anymore :c Which makes me sad. But anytime I see him,think of him,or even hear his name or see it I blush horribly. One day I told my friend that I was bi and she promised she wouldnt tell anyone but of course we all know that humans most of the time cant; So she told someone and it escalated to the whole school. I havent been picked on for it but it does get it on my nerved when people ask if I am. Point being; I have no idea if he knows the secret or not but lately he's been talking and hanging around me a lot. Should I tell him the truth coming from me? Help please :C

—Guest ThatOneChilddd

Crush on a straight friend

I met him at my first job that I ever had. I thought he was the biggest douchebag in the world. Next thing you know we started talking more. We are now pretty good friends but a few months ago I started having really deep feelings for him. Some people tell me it's a superficial attraction. I believe otherwise. I see beyond his standoffish exterior and really "love" him for who is and how nice he is. I could never tell if he was gay straight bi whatever. There have been moments where we would be eating and he would put his hand on my side of the table, get closer to me and we would stare for about 6-7 seconds then he would laugh and slide back to his side. I want to tell him that I have deep DEEP feelings for him but I don't want to sound sketchy. This whole situation is so frustrating and has taken a toll on me in my freshmen year of college. I really don't know what to do. When I'm with him I feel a sense of happiness nd fulfillment within myself.

—xanhia

gay or bi

I am 17 and, I am in love with a bisexual guy we are sexualy active and he says he doesnt love me he knows its hurts me to have sex and then have him not love me i continue on with it because its the only way i can be close to i was thefirst person he ever kissed and he only had sex with a girl once and he said he did it to just prove he could what do i do? he says hes not gay

—Guest lj

My Crush

I've had an immense crush on someone at my school since the 6th grade. I am now a Senior. It is our last term for our high school career, and I feel like if I don't do something soon, he will be gone. In Middle School, we got in a fight about some stupid incident, and he decked me. My life was in emotional turmoil that day, because the person I secretly admired actually punched me. I suspect that this "abuse" further inflamed my desire for him. I have rarely talked to him at all during all of high school, just observing him from a far. Until a friend of mine told me that he regrets what happened in Middle School, and that he wants to apologize before the term is out. So, I planned to have a nice friendly convo with him today during senior release, and gain his friendship. But apparently, there is track meet, so he will be gone. I spent a long time planning this out, and now I feel ruined yet again. I truly want him, and I know he doesn't want me, but friendship with him is just as good

—Guest broken individual

help plz

Ok I'm 13 and well this guy at my skool we are really close I'm not sure if he is gay it's really hard to figure it out ok 1st I slept Over at his house for the first time and we slept in the same bed but head to toe we were talking about random fings then he switched sides n he came real close to my face and it was like a moment as if we were gonna kiss we spent like 20 mins touching each others faces k so next day sleep over I switch 2 his side n he ignores me and I don't rlly understand y so next day we were watching a really scary moving and we started hugging it's was akward and we had anthor moment of a kiss but nothing happens den we just sat down normally till the movie ended n he went home next we were dry humping each other as jokes n it got serious n we had the same moment next day he starts talking about girls n he keeps on going n them he came up to me and said let's stop all this gay things I said ok cool next sleep over we went under the blanket n had that werid moment

—Guest mysterion

Gay crush on straight guys

Get out of there. Do not let this fantasy bother you. It is not the real thing, it is your fantasy. Trust me, even if you had this guy, he would NOT EVEN BE WHAT you are fantasizing... the universe has a reason for saying NO. Move on, get another icon to look up to. Do not waste your time dwelling on this crap.

—Guest Meggallus

Straight crush, my best friend.

Look, there's no easy way to say it. It's hard. I'll just tell you my story. My best friend, well one of them is Tyler. He is the most adorable little country boy i've ever met in my life. I've never said this about someone and meant it, but he's perfect. I'm basically in love with him, i've liked him since the first day I met him. He doesn't know but I'm pretty sure it's the most obvious thing like ever! I flirt with him and sometimes it seems like he flirts with me. Like when he tells me he'll miss me at graduation, or when he just stares at me. Or when we fight, it's cute, i'll never forget him. He'd be perfect. The only thing, is that he's straight. I've never really asked him but i'm like 99.99% sure. But one day i'll let him know, it'll be a weight off my shoulders. The best thing to do is tell them how you feel and tell them that you hope it won't be awkward.

—Guest Oh boy.