Readers Respond: What Can You Do if You are a GLBT Teen with a Crush on Someone Straight?

Responses: 65

It is really common for GLBT teens to have feelings for their friends, but what do you do if you are gay and have a straight crush?

This is a topic that has come up a lot in the community forum. As one teen says,

"I have this crush on this boy. He was really adorable and was a skater...We never really talked except over Myspace, and he claimed to be straight. I just wish that i could have him. But he keeps only going out with chicks. I want him to give me a chance! What should i do?"

Ever been in a similar situation? Share what was it like below!

Jake

So I realized in 8th grade that I was infatuated with this boy Jake. He was my first crush and crushing on him helped me come to realize my homosexuality. Anyways throughout ALL of 8th and 9th grade all I can remember is either trying to catch glimpses of him or avoid him cause I was embarrassed to death for liking him. By 10th grade, I realized I had no chance whatsoever and got over him. I still kind of joke with him about it and we both laugh. Anyways, this just goes to show that you will eventually get over it no matter how much you think you won't.

—Guest Nick

It's strange

I’m in a school only for girls, I have a friend we are not in the same group of friends, but we are in the same class and sometimes we talk and makes joke with each other. She’s really cool as friend, she’s funny, very sportive, and she’s in the football team of our college. One day during the recreation, she went to play football it was a match “teacher against student” it was really funny, when I saw her playing I don’t know why but I felt something inside, it was a strange feeling that I’ve never known before. I started to hate weekends because I couldn’t see her. She’s bi, but she has a boyfriend, and I really don’t like him. One day while talking with my friends I turned back to glance at her and I was really surprise because she too was glancing at me and this situation makes us smile to each other. I love her, but I’m scared to talk to her about my feelings, and this makes me insane. Help me plz….(I’m not gay or bi it’s only for her that I feel like this)

—Guest Summer

Im so confused

I am so confused and dont know what to do i really like this kid name jase and he told me he liked me so i told him how i felt we didnt do anything besides sit there and hangout well we was walking and he told me he really didnt like me he was just saying he did to help his sister cause she did everything to get us hooked up. I told him i was sorry that i couldnt do this just to make his sister happy. This is the second time this had happend to me but the first time i made out with the guy anyways. this made me feel like crap because i told him everything and he lied to me i went home from the party in tears i feel like ill never find someone im just to shy or no one likes me what do i do.

—Guest kyle16

alike but diffrent

I am BI soposably I took a test it said i was but I not sure I have a couple of crushes on some girls but the thing is that I had some dreams of me having a gay sex / dating relationship any ideas why I can see myself doing gay/BI things but I can't bring myelf to do it I want to know any help would be appreshated in helping me even if I have to experment with myself don't want to hurt anyone (sorry for any missed spelled words)

—Guest guest lee / cody

my crush

im 14 i've never liked girls all my life and im really shy so i've never told anyone im gay.But in my 6th and 7th period their is this really cute(by cute i mean sexy) boy that i wish i had the courage to talk to but i dont know what my friends and family would think of me.it makes me really hate the world we live in today.

—Guest miyuki

I love him

im 15 an ive known that i was gay since a very young age and ive fantasised about a number of my friends. i have a huge crush on one of my bestest friends - he has a some of signs of being gay but on the other hand hes obsessed with boobs. i love being with him and i hate it when i dont see him for more than a week. i would do almost anything for him to help him, be with him or to make him happy. i have another friend whos also really good friends with this boy and i am very sure that he too has a big crush on this boy. i have no idea what to do or whether i should act on my feelings or not. i hate being gay and i wish i was straight - i know this is quite controversial, but i cant help it - i really want to be turned on by girls, but im not. i dont have a clue what i should do about it. right now im very much in the closet and its my deepest secret, sometimes it really tears me apart.

—Guest JackJJames

Its stressing me out!

I have a crush on this guy in grade 10 and im in grade 12. I think hes straight because he has a girlfriend, but im not quite sure. He is so gorgeous, funny, great fashion sense and an artist. I barely know him, we have never really talked hes only a friend on facebook. But we have much in common, where both shy and quiet and like drawing/painting/etc. He is really the first real crush ive had and i cant do anything about it. It doesnt help we have two classes together. Every time a see him or he comes near me I get chills and my heart starts racing. Its stressful.

—Guest Kyle

Help

I told my biology teacher that i like her and i am bi sexual as i dated girls before, I am in a girls school but then ever since she knew i hace a crush on her i find it difficult to talk to her when i have problem in my works , after 9 months i still have not move on but , she is getting married . i m very sad and depressed , before confessinf my feeling to her she was very nice to me . whenever she saw me in a bad mood she would go and comfort me . and she almost hug me . i am dying for her hug , i am afarid that i will never forget her , and the problem is im 16 and she is 28..... i love her hair , i love her smile it melt my heart .

—Guest ahgirl

This boy...

Basically I'm Bi and this boy is straight, and a bit homophobic. I known him for only about 2 months but he already become one of my best friend... well I'm a best friend in the school for him, coz he's new, but I have a crush on him and dunno what to do, I'm scared of what would happen if i tell him, I don't know how he'll take it and also dont want him to tell everyone in the school. I only let a few people know my sexual orientation, basically is just this fear and emotion stuck in my mind...

—tsuicbd

I Just Dont Know

Well there's this guy and it's been about 3-4 years that he has told me he likes me. It all started when he played baseball he would always look at me and wink I would smile thinking it's in a joking matter. So couple years pass and I send him this forward that had said forward to everyone you think is hot so I accidently send it to him and he text back and asked really and I said well sorry but yea so he tells me that he is bi and I said oh me too. Ever since that he has text me first and everytime I see he texts me I smile. So one time we send each other pics via email. But what I didn't know was little by little he would start avoiding me. And now currently I think about him on a constant basis and my friends think I'm obsessed with him..which I am..and I just want to text him so badly but he doesn't text back and I just always make up excuses about why he isn't texting back. And I just think he is the one for me and the one that always will be *Sorry for any miss spelled words*

—Guest Guest Jay

Risk it or Stay friends?

I have this attraction to this guy in my school, for about 2 years i have and we had alot of classes together but we only have 2 now. I really want to give us a chance but I'm not sure if he is Bi...he can't be fully gay though. And i really really really!! value him as a friend above anything else..no matter what other feelings i have...he is one of my best and favourite friends...hence the attraction i guess..he is down to earth, Smart, funny and sensitive so i rather just keep him as a friend than risk it. I'm 99% sure that he would stop talking to me if i told him i liked him ( guess im one of the luckier ones) but it will make our friendship a little akward though...but all in all..i say if you really like a guy for him ( like in a friend) its not worth pushing it...stay friends.

—Guest Guest..

i like this boy

i am a teenager going through weird times, I've ignored them and told myself i'm not gay but this boy is different. i'm 14 he's 15 i dream about him topless and in my dreams he's always asking me out, but i let him go. i wake up wanting to pash and wake up next to him. but i think he's straight, we have this time at his work, he works at foodworks and we say hi and have eye contact. oh... i melt i really want to be with him, no one else but him.

—Guest lukey

Help

Hello. Just a quick question. Wat i feel is something wrong for me . I'm gay i didn't used to beleive in relations and that you can fall in love with a guy that was weird for me to even have such those thoughts . Even when i had this conversation with my gay friend me how Much he loves his other gay friend i was asking him how if feel and i was thinking that he's over reacting till this moment i fell in love with that guy this straight guy :( i feel like i'm in a heaven when i'm with him we always hang out togther going many places caffes clubs anywhere togther and here is my big problem when he came to me telling me that he fall in love with that girl i know as she's one of our group friends. My heart broken scratched to a little pieces i act like oh great congratulations i couldn't show my feelings . I kept asking him do you really love her are you happy .etc . Every time she call him i feel jealouse the way i feel like i wanna take the phone from him telling her get away from him .

—Guest Confused pharaoh

Ask him

I'm in seventh grade and i am in a relationship with the guy I like cause I asked him and he said he is you don't have to tell anyone to. If they don't understand you or you two don't tell them they don't now it's not a choice. I mean if it's aganst god why are we here then.

—Guest Gay and proud

straight girl crush

Well first off let me just say that I am straight with an exception. I like guys. but i have a crush on my best friend, whose a girl. Everytime i see her my heart beats faster and slower at the same time. i love her smell, her touch, everything about her. i hug her ever chance i get. shes the only girl i look at like that [thats why its staright with an exception]. shes thinks homosexuality is wrong and that it goes against god. if i were to ever get the courage to tell her i love her, how would i do that ? HELP ME.

—Guest Confused