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ive joined the club

I go to this small school and i like this boy Who is straight and i am gay. i stare at him all the time and he just looks at me and i smirk then he looks away but alot of people hate him and im starting to dislike him for reasons but i cant tell him that i like him because he said its against god cuz hes christian i am too. but ill always like him and prob not tell him
—Guest shadow

HELP!!

Ok, My name is R and i have this friend her name is k and she is my best friend she live right across the street from me. i can see her room when i look out my window literally. i go over there all the time and when i would do her favors like get her a cup of kool- aid she will be like thanks baby or honey. Something like that and she knows im a lesbian and i know she is straight? i think? okay so after hanging out so much i ended up to begin liking her. and i holding it in for a good amount of time. so one day i was just laying in bed and we was texting and i finally felt it was the rite time to tell her. and she said you know im not gay "honey" is that a sign. is she teasing me? and we still never talked about it we still are best friends and she hasn't changed a bit. but now i wont to know if she feels the same way about me. its bothering me. can you help?
—rayshean

heeellllpp

so ive been gay sice 5 th grade when i started liking this guy i don't know if he is straight but im pretty sure he is gay cuz one day we were playin video games n i said " i really want to unlock that gun" and he grabbed my ass and said " i want some of this!" but i dunno what to do maybe he cud spend the night and ill try to kiss him or sumthin but theres this other guyi think hes straight i am over obsessed about these boys ive even dreamed abouth them and masturbated to them please help me in the end i think ill be with the first one i talked about ps ive been slightly intimidate with another boy so this wouldn't b the 1st time) im 12
—Guest vh

its very hard

i'm 13 and i liked this girl who was clearly straight. we never really flirted but i started to get feelings for her and soon i started to like her. she knew i was bi and we were really good friends. so i told her i liked her and she seemed ok with it, but as time went on things got akward. now we arent friends and i dont like her anymore. if you wanna tell the girl or guy you like them wait a while because you can hurt or things will work out your way. i hope this helped:)
—Guest vex

I have similar scenarios

I have a best friend I like but he is straight, I have guys at my school that I really like but I think they are straight...I'm a junior, I am bi (I think lol), k I've had a really good friend that I've known all the way from kindergarten, we have grown up together, its been great having my bud around. BUT, between this year and last year I have seen him get super muscular and sexy, and I like him as a person, we joke and sometimes I think he is being way more playful than I am, he knows I'm bi, I tell him everything, but he is straight, we sleep in the same bed, but he is straight, it makes me really confused...k and with the straight guys at my school, I try and flirt with them and I'm still working on my charm, I wouldn't mind elaborating on my life to anyone who's interested, I connected a lot with the other posts.
—Mr.Biquinty

I like him

At my school, there is this boy who I like but I think he is straight. I have very mixed thaughts like what if he is straight?, does he even know I'm gay?, and what would he say? We only have 1 class together but on the same hockey team. We have also been friends for a long time but now I'm scared of just having a simple conversation like even the thaught that I like him would come into the subject. PLEASE HELP!
—Guest Unknown

gay loves a straight

i have crush with my cousin who is younger than me i am gay but he is straight and i love him but he does not response to me even i tried hard he is shy plz give me best advise.
—Guest suhail

gay

i have a crush on my cuisine who is straight and stays with me but does not response to me i love him and afraid to tell him about that i am gay plz give me best advise
—Guest suhail

Pure Pain.

I'm a gay guy I'm in complete and total love for a straight guy. He's my best friend and he is very very good looking. We've even had accidents but he maintains he's straight. If we were anything but best friends I would get rid of him to move on. But we're so close I can't just get rid of him. So now he has a girlfriend and she is becoming his world. Everything seems so bad at the moment. I feel all the standard feelings. Why doesn't he want me, what's wrong with me, am I ugly. But even though I right these words I know it's none of that. It's him. And to be fair, he's the one missing out. Still hurts more than I can bare sometimes.
—Guest Sean

Gett what u want'!

I'm 17 and I'm secretly bi. I have a bestfriend and hese straight . He doesn't know I'm bi.... but hese really cute & I like him. We say we could be brothers. Hese a preppy thug looking kinda guy if that makes sence. But he always comes onto me.and a week ago we were drunk nd he said he thinks I'm cute. He always stays at my house in the same bed. But this special night we messed around nd we secretly got together....:) yup so keep trying and you will get what u want.
—Guest Davidd;)

I wish he knew

I have a friend I flirt with him all the time he has a gf. I told him a liked him and he said he liked me to but as a friend. I wish he knew how I felt about him
—Guest Hfh

I understand.

I have a very similar problem. I'm gay, but nobody knows. And I have this really good friend, and we are almost always together. I am pretty sure he's not gay, but we spend so much time together it's the closest thing to having a relationship with a guy. And sometimes i really do feel like we are together. But he just recently got a girlfriend who he's spending more and more time with. A regular friend wouldn't get upset about it, but i'm really getting depressed. I have no idea how i should handle this.
—Guest Rhett

What to Do?

I am openly gay, and I like this guy. He acts gay by almost every stereotype, and me and him stare at each-other for extended periods of time. He claims to be straight, but a lot of people just don't believe it. I want to tell him I like him, but Im afraid he'll hate me.
—Guest Confusion

Help

Ok im 14 and i have a crush on my best best friend. We flirt but i think hes Gay but im not sure. I want to be with him but i dont know how to come out to him. Maybe he will love me idk. Help respond.
—Guest Garrett

same prolblem"BESTFRIEND CRUSH"

same problem as the guy explained in "BESTFRIEND CRUSH" but i think myself more than what than guy feels....i luv my friend like anything.even i hav conveyed dis to him but not in the way that im having crush on him.how to get out of this thinking??can anyone help me...plz? i cant even concentrate on my career due to this.its something like im checking my level of self control every time whenever i met him.when im with him i feel like there is something valuable(more than diamond) very nearer to me...but couldnt get through it...
—Guest uday

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