Guys, When Did You Know You Were Gay?
Wednesday December 3, 2008
Last week, I asked girls to tell us about their early experiences as lesbians and what they think shaped their sexual orientation. Here are some of the things they said:
- I’ve always known, from when I was a young girl. it wasn’t until i got older that i knew what to call it…
- I’d probably go with a mix of the three [nature, nurture and choice]. I don’t know; it’s hard to imagine being any other way.
- ever since i was little i always wanted kiss girls, when all my friends wanted to kiss boys. i never really connected with any boys. my first crush was a girl i knew in elementary school. when i got older and realized it was ok to be open about it, i came out. fell in love, etc.
Now I'm curious to hear from guys. If you are gay, when did you first realize this, and what do you think "causes" sexual orientation? Share your thoughts in the comments!
Comments
I knew I was gay since the 9th grade, but then I suppressed my feelings because I thought it was just a phase. Then in my senior year in high school everyone was convinced I was gay. That made me realize I was really was gay.
I started to notice I was gay in 4th grade. I was never fond of females, but always fond of males. I kind of pushed the feelings to the side, and continued being with females. But then in 7th grade, it hit me hard. I noticed I had no attraction at all towards females, and only males. I went through 7th grade confused, not knowing what to do. Then the end of the school year came. Over summer, I made the decision to come out to everyone at the beginning of 8th grade. And I did. Now I’m as happy as I could ever be, and I openly have an amazing relationship with my boyfriend.
Ever since I was little
Thinking about it when I first “realised,” it wasn’t a choice I made, but it was how I was made.
And besides, I’ve always known I was/am gay.
Glenn, UK.
i’ve known i was gay sence i was 11, however, i always knew there was some slight difference between me and other boys. in elementry school, i’ve always liked boys, whail everyone else liked girls, so i just played along. and as for sexual orientation, it’s not a choice. you are born who you are, so be proud!!!
Well it was never a sudden realization. I had never liked girls and I had my first crush in 6th grade. I never felt like it was an all-of-a-sudden thing, just something that had always been there. Being gay is definitely not a choice, and I have no idea why people would think it is. Ask them to try and be gay. Ask me to try and be straight. It just doesn’t work because that’s not who I am. So what do I think causes it? Well, there are certain physical differences between straight and gay men that have been proven. But think about it; what’s your favorite color? Is it your favorite because you chose it to be your favorite? It’s the same thing with a sexual orientation; you just like what you like, and there are many different factors that play a role in it.