Pagan
- Now I'm not Christian. I'm, what I guess you could call pagan. Not like Wiccan witchcraft pagan, but just like, a small religion. I developed my faith at the same time as I was coming to terms (well, not coming to terms, as I've never had a problem with being gay, but more of figuring out) my sexuality, so I've never had conflicts between my faith and my sexuality. I have had problems with others' beliefs however. My grandmother is a devout Baptist, and since I told her I was gay about 3 months ago, I've only spoken to her once about it, and that was to find out if she'd gotten my letter. She had told me that she accepts it, but she doesn't agree. I take this to mean something along the line of "Why on Earth does he want to be gay?" I've purposefully avoided bringing up the subject since then. One of my best friends is also quite religious, and he kind of freaked out when I told him. I really don't understand why Christians believe being gay is wrong, but I leave them to their beliefs.
- —AKsr.oa4a
God is Love
- I've been gay for about three years now and I've been in a relationship with a girl for two years and a half. Being in high school and being gay was terrifying because of the narrow minded environment. So most of those three years were hidden. Each day, getting more complicated than the next. Long story short, I just recently came out to my parents and my sister. My life wil never be the same. My sister treats me as a leper and my parents, well..my dad stays quiet and my mom keeps shoving the Bible down my throat. Desperate to know if I am truely as a sinner as they tell me I read other replies to this question. It put me at ease because. God really does love me! And my girlfrind! And ever single soul out there! Don't give up if you're in a situation like mine, I'm not going to. Just wish my family knew wat they actally do to me.
- —Guest GodLovesAna
searching for acceptance
- I'm 17 years old and I've known that I'm lesbian for almost 2 years. I live in southern Virginia and everyone automatically condemn gays saying that they choose to be gay. When I realized I was lesbian, I started looking back into my past trying to figure out where I went wrong, and I realized that I was interested in the same sex as young as in kindergarten. At that age, I didn't even know what homosexuality was, but it still affected me. How did I have a choice? What 5 year old decides that they want to be something that the world despises? It wasn't my choice, and since coming to terms with being gay, I've tried to understand where I stand with God. Part of me believes the people around me that say gays will burn in hell for their sins, but the other part believes that God made me this way and that I am perfect in His eyes. I don't know what to believe. I feel hopeless. All I want is to be close to God again. I feel so empty without Him.
- —Guest Taylor
when your dads the pastor
- well im 14 now and ive been gay for like 2 years, but ive only been out for 1, but not by choice. i was spending the night at a "friends" house whos dad was ill. so as the pastor my dad would come by and vist. well her parents were home so we were upstares on the couch making out. and my parents just walk right up the stares and they totaly flipped out. and i got grounded for a month, got my phone taken away, and they pretty much killed my life. and the whole church found out so i was not only shund by my family but also the church. my parents are a little better with it now as long as we dont ever talk about it, but it was alot of hell after they found out.
- —Guest just_me
Struggling
- I have been raised a christian from day 1. My mom is very strict and although she denys hating gay people she calls them disgusting and when she found out I was a lesbian she told me she would rather see me dead than as a homosexual. I'm tired of lying and I'm unsure of if I want to pretend to be straight until I'm on my own-I start college next year-or if I should just abandon my feelings and force myself to be straight even though I know I will be very unhappy. I've always loved girls and I could never see myself with a man. I love God and I pray to him everyday and study my Bible for something that will give me hope. I do not want to lie anymore but I don't want to lose my family over this. I pray that God will give me a sign as to what to do, and for those of you going through what I'm experiencing, you are in my prayers as well. You are loved!!
- —Guest Prix
The Non-Christian Gay
- My experience with religion isn't so great because of much of the Christian community I am convinced that there is no "God". I wish I was born in a time with no religion at least then the bigots in this world could not hide behind a book written over 2000 years ago. Instead, they'd have to admit that they hated just because they could, not unlike what they do now. At least then the farce that is religion could disappear and stop giving false hopes to the gay community. I'm tired of the snobby little peons that call themselves Christian.
- —Guest fray
So confused...
- I'm 15 and I recently started considering myself bisexual and possibly gay, but I also believe in God and Christianity and still want that in my life. After I decided that I had feelings for the same gender I was so scared of the thought that I might be going to Hell for this and I tried to force myself out of it which didn't work at all. Now that I know that there are many other gay christians out there who have accepted themselves it makes me feel so much greater. Although I'm still worried about being estranged from society I'm happy to know that God still will accept me.
- —Guest Nick
trouble for gay people
- People around you think that being homosexual people are drenched in sin by the devil himself, i myself am gay i always thought that people who hate homosexuals are nothing but low lives they want gay people to be straight and its not right for them to judge because anyone can love its no illegal i was brought up in a catholic home my father was strict about religion and god i was not i wanted to choose my own path i told my mom she said she was ok with it but she lied my dad hates homosexuals and i dont know if i should tell him if i do i know my consequences he will ignore me hate me and think im a child drenched in sin who can no longer be forgotten but hear this people who are bi and gay its ok if you hide yourself or if you tell because no one can hurt what you believe in i myself hide it from other some of my friends know cause they care for me but if your dad is not ok with it show him that you are you and nothing can change that if your afraid wait for the right time
- —Guest hanyuu
trouble for gay people
- People around you think that being homosexual people are drenched in sin by the devil himself, i myself am gay i always thought that people who hate homosexuals are nothing but low lives they want gay people to be straight and its not right for them to judge because anyone can love its no illegal i was brought up in a catholic home my father was strict about religion and god i was not i wanted to choose my own path i told my mom she said she was ok with it but she lied my dad hates homosexuals and i dont know if i should tell him if i do i know my consequences he will ignore me hate me and think im a child drenched in sin who can no longer be forgotten but hear this people who are bi and gay its ok if you hide yourself or if you tell because no one can hurt what you believe in i myself hide it from other some of my friends know cause they care for me but if your dad is not ok with it show him that you are you and nothing can change that if your afraid wait for the right time
- —Guest hanyuu
My stomach hurts.
- I am sixteen years old. I realized I was bisexual when I was thirteen, but lately I've been liking girls more (mostly because of a very traumatic experience that happened with a guy when I was twelve.) I trust girls more and I find them infinitely more attractive then guys. I haven't come out to my parents but they are accepting of gay people because my mom has a gay cousin and a lesbian aunt, but they don't believe gay people should have marriage rights. There's only one problem and that is my church. My pastor and several members of the church don't believe it is wrong as long as you stay 'pure', but a large number of other members do. It makes me sick to go to church now but I'm too afraid to come out to my parents, as both a lesbian and skeptical Christian. Every time I start feeling really bad though, I remember 1 Peter 4:8. 'Above all, love fervently because love can cover a multitude of sins.'
- —Guest Aubrey
YOU ARE VERY MUCH LOVED
- I am a fully devout christian and have been my whole life. I'm not gay, but don't be alarmed this not gonna be a gay-bashing statements. I will stand on my belief that it is wrong based on the word. For those of you who are this way, God directly condemns it, but he does not hate you. The word states that he hates sin. So he loves the prostitute, the drunk, the drug addict, the murderer, the liar, etc., but he hates sin. Look guys i agree that the christian community has been harsh in their words, but i tell you that the world is just as cruel. i just want you to know that christ and the church is definitely where you should run. My father is a pastor and he accepts everyone in an effort to help them with their walk with christ. Now i will leave you with this, why would God, being a perfect God create you with such confusion. God is not a god of confusion, perfect in everything. You are all gifts, dont let the enemy make you feel alienated. In the end my message is..."YOU ARE LOVED:-)"
- —Guest Minister Michael Torres
Gay life is very difficult
- I feel pretty much the safe. At the moment I m in a state of total confusion, I am a Christian but at the same time I still haven't got my question answered...Why am I gay but cannot have a relationship with men? I fear that I m gonna be totally alone for the rest of my life...at the moment I don't have friends to hang out with, all people I know are straight...I haven't told anyone about my sexuality and I will never tell it to anyone, I don't want to be mocked for the rest of my life, life is unfair...I'm wearing a face mask too and unsure which way to take up - be a christian and live my life alone till I die? or discard catholism and live a sinful life?
- —Guest Confused
I really don't know
- I'm a 14 year old gay Christian who has recently made a faith commitment to God and it's deffinitely not easy. I would love to tell people it's okay to be gay but I'm going to be honest, I don't know! I've always been taught that it's a sin so that's what I've gone with. After making my faith commitment I'm pretty much not allowed to have relationships and I'm going to be single my whole life. I can not have feelings for men either. I know my life isn't going to be easy but I am devoted to God and I will do whatever I need to do to obey him.
- —Guest Bobby
God loves us...
- I believe in god, although I'm gay...I'm 15 years old, sometimes I go to the church, I'm catholic-christian, I have my beliefs, and I think that God loves us...as we are, being gay isn't a choose, we were born lika that and we'll be like that forever...
- —Raffaelix
Ricardocoav
- I believe that homosexuales are born that way. I have a close family member that is and he never had any influence from outsiders. At age 3 there were feministic traits. I kept record and tried to change the boy's mannerisms but failed. Today at age 19 he is homosexual, not because I say so, but because I heard him tell his mother, that he was. If you were born that way, it was God's will (according to the bible, everything that exists, was God's will) and therefore it is not a sin to be homosexual just as long as you follow the 10 commandments. Harm no one and love ye one another. That seems to be the perfect goal to obtain and be happy with yourself. Kind love to all!
- —Guest Ricardo
