Readers Respond: What is Love? Here's What Gay and Lesbian Teens Think...

Responses: 35

By Ellen Friedrichs, About.com Guide

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Love is holding on when it seems all is lost except for the emotions you feel. Love is accepting faults and changes of heart, knowing that you want the best for the person you love. Love is tracing and coloring in the heart, filling it with life, using only a hug, a kiss, sometimes even a loving glance. Love is not only the concept of being 'in love'. Love is caring about someone so much that no matter what they do, you can always accept them. Love is helping them believe everything will be alright, and hoping that their belief will help you believe too. Love is sometimes said to be hard to find, but it’s a lot easier to see than you think. Love is knowing the quote, “To the world you may be just one person, but to one person, you may be the world,” and believing it because you see it every day.
—WakeUpDawn

Everyone has their own definition of love. Before we met that "someone sepcial" we all wondering what is love, and how does love feels like. Untill that person shows up, you will suddenly realized what is love, and how does that feels like. I think it's in our nerve. When the right person shows up, that's nerve will alarm you to tell u what is love.
—Neilsi

love is what? i dont know how to define it but i know its a strong feeling u have 4 sum one.
—Guest jojo

Love is the best feeling in the world, it dont matter what kind of love it is, whether it is gay/straight/bi love, it is just as strong no matter what, being in a gay relationship myself and being in love with my girl friend I know that love is just as strong in any relationship of any sexuality
—Guest Hannaaaaa.

..love is a great thing it gives you strength . it gives yu power nd making yourself say nd do things tht you normaly wonted love is a drug.. when you see tht person you only see tht person when yu kiss its like you felt something tht made yu nt ever wanna stop.. love isnt just a straight word its both . bekuz you see gay or lez couples everyday nd they just seem soo happiness.. nd to be honest im lez nd ever since i met this female my biggest fear is losing her she is my heart my soul my everything . nd when you find someone like that you should treasure it with everything you have.. siqn off ---- munkii27
—Guest munkii27

love is so comlicated and confusing that no language or use of words can define it. it is the sweetest thing in the world, knowing that no matter what happens, no matter what life throws at you, the one thing that will remain is love. it can be love for a partner, or a friend, or even your dog. point is: love is what we make of it. it doesnt matter whether it is straight, or gay, or bi, or anything else.
—Guest Carli

love is the best feeling in the world. at first its those little butterflies in you, but soon turns into a beautiful wave of warmth like the suns light moving over you.love is trust. when you can leave unexpectedly for an emergency and come back and know that s/he is still there for you, and even if they werent thinking about you while you were gone, you trusted each other that neither one would cheat or anything of the sort.love is. scary sometimes,beause maybe you dont know what to expect and you have dissaproval coming from all angles, but love is also your shield, because you know that with her/him,anything is possible.love isnt perfect, and sometimes there are fights, and maybe tears, but at the end of the day while the sunsets, youre next to each other in spirit,if not physically.And you know that no matter what happens, you have that person to be there and support you,no matter what happens.love is.beautiful.(im actually bi, but i didnt think it would hurt to post.
—Guest aizen

I don't know if someone who's only felt a one- sidded love can really define it... But i'll give it a shot. Love is how much you need that person in your life. When your in love all you can do is think of that one special person. It's when you would give up everything just to make them smile. In my opinion it dosn't matter if the rest of the world looks down on you just cause your gay or Les or whatever! Love is what you make it. How ever you define it is up to you, but that's how I would describe it...
—Guest Confused girl

Well what i have wit hurr is unexplainable, because it all started like a game i only wanted too play but time pass and his love made mi fall in love wit hurr, we had dee best relationship but now we just cant work were always fightin nd we broke up.. but i still think it was love, because dee feelings i had can never be compared.
—Guest Shorty

I believe love is when you understand a person without having to ask for an explanation. When you would give your own life to save theirs. When you would do anything at all for the person. Love can be unrequited, but you still don't give up. Love is when you put full trust in a person, believing they'd never do anything to harm you. Love is when you would stay with a person, no matter the consequences. A thing not too many have anymore. I believe we gay/lesbian/bi/trans people have a deeper sense of the word love. Mainly because being hated and despised by so many people, we know we're lucky to find anybody who accepts us for who we are.
—Guest Jordan

Love is true. love is strong. love is doing whats right no matter what. love can be one sided. love will be forever no matter if its fifty years from now. love is when the room lights up every time you see them. love is a big deal for everyone, young, old, straight, or not. through love, everyone is equal. what being gay or lesbian means is that your heart is open to true love, which is love regardless of who or what they are. in todays society, being straight is stressed on being the only good way to love. it isnt true. people who thinks they are straight can love someone of the same gender. but the opposite is also true. someone who thinks they are gay or lesbian can also love someone of the opposite gender. but because of society today and its failed teachers, everyone is left being shallow. it doesnt matter if your ugly or beautiful. or a guy or a girl. or young or old. strong or weak. black or white. love is love.
—Guest Mirror of Truth

Love is the combination of two unknown/different souls. I have practiced the love so I can easily say that the more and more u loves a girl, the more and more she forgets/hates u...
—Guest Mudasir Manzar

Love is compassion for humans. It is falling for someones personality regardless of their gender or orientation and not being afraid.
—Guest yeaaahh

I know that many str8 people think we are excluded from love... I don't think so, considering i am in love. I fall more and more each day. Love is knowing that you are cared for and caring back, knowing that you can cuddle up to the person and kiss them and hug them, just for the heck of it. My love is straight, but I still love him.
—Guest cody

Ellen Friedrichs
GLBT Teens Guide