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Readers Respond: What Can You Do if You are a GLBT Teen with a Crush on Someone Straight?

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Similar Problem??

Okay so I'm a 14 year old bisexual guy and I have this crush on the guy...whom We'll call 'D'. Last year when I moved to the school I'm at now, He was really nice to me and was basically my first friend there. We talked all the time and now were in High School and I really like him a lot. In the beginning of the year we talked a lot but now we don't talk much anymore :c Which makes me sad. But anytime I see him,think of him,or even hear his name or see it I blush horribly. One day I told my friend that I was bi and she promised she wouldnt tell anyone but of course we all know that humans most of the time cant; So she told someone and it escalated to the whole school. I havent been picked on for it but it does get it on my nerved when people ask if I am. Point being; I have no idea if he knows the secret or not but lately he's been talking and hanging around me a lot. Should I tell him the truth coming from me? Help please :C
—Guest ThatOneChilddd

Crush on a straight friend

I met him at my first job that I ever had. I thought he was the biggest douchebag in the world. Next thing you know we started talking more. We are now pretty good friends but a few months ago I started having really deep feelings for him. Some people tell me it's a superficial attraction. I believe otherwise. I see beyond his standoffish exterior and really "love" him for who is and how nice he is. I could never tell if he was gay straight bi whatever. There have been moments where we would be eating and he would put his hand on my side of the table, get closer to me and we would stare for about 6-7 seconds then he would laugh and slide back to his side. I want to tell him that I have deep DEEP feelings for him but I don't want to sound sketchy. This whole situation is so frustrating and has taken a toll on me in my freshmen year of college. I really don't know what to do. When I'm with him I feel a sense of happiness nd fulfillment within myself.
—xanhia

gay or bi

I am 17 and, I am in love with a bisexual guy we are sexualy active and he says he doesnt love me he knows its hurts me to have sex and then have him not love me i continue on with it because its the only way i can be close to i was thefirst person he ever kissed and he only had sex with a girl once and he said he did it to just prove he could what do i do? he says hes not gay
—Guest lj

My Crush

I've had an immense crush on someone at my school since the 6th grade. I am now a Senior. It is our last term for our high school career, and I feel like if I don't do something soon, he will be gone. In Middle School, we got in a fight about some stupid incident, and he decked me. My life was in emotional turmoil that day, because the person I secretly admired actually punched me. I suspect that this "abuse" further inflamed my desire for him. I have rarely talked to him at all during all of high school, just observing him from a far. Until a friend of mine told me that he regrets what happened in Middle School, and that he wants to apologize before the term is out. So, I planned to have a nice friendly convo with him today during senior release, and gain his friendship. But apparently, there is track meet, so he will be gone. I spent a long time planning this out, and now I feel ruined yet again. I truly want him, and I know he doesn't want me, but friendship with him is just as good
—Guest broken individual

help plz

Ok I'm 13 and well this guy at my skool we are really close I'm not sure if he is gay it's really hard to figure it out ok 1st I slept Over at his house for the first time and we slept in the same bed but head to toe we were talking about random fings then he switched sides n he came real close to my face and it was like a moment as if we were gonna kiss we spent like 20 mins touching each others faces k so next day sleep over I switch 2 his side n he ignores me and I don't rlly understand y so next day we were watching a really scary moving and we started hugging it's was akward and we had anthor moment of a kiss but nothing happens den we just sat down normally till the movie ended n he went home next we were dry humping each other as jokes n it got serious n we had the same moment next day he starts talking about girls n he keeps on going n them he came up to me and said let's stop all this gay things I said ok cool next sleep over we went under the blanket n had that werid moment
—Guest mysterion

Gay crush on straight guys

Get out of there. Do not let this fantasy bother you. It is not the real thing, it is your fantasy. Trust me, even if you had this guy, he would NOT EVEN BE WHAT you are fantasizing... the universe has a reason for saying NO. Move on, get another icon to look up to. Do not waste your time dwelling on this crap.
—Guest Meggallus

Straight crush, my best friend.

Look, there's no easy way to say it. It's hard. I'll just tell you my story. My best friend, well one of them is Tyler. He is the most adorable little country boy i've ever met in my life. I've never said this about someone and meant it, but he's perfect. I'm basically in love with him, i've liked him since the first day I met him. He doesn't know but I'm pretty sure it's the most obvious thing like ever! I flirt with him and sometimes it seems like he flirts with me. Like when he tells me he'll miss me at graduation, or when he just stares at me. Or when we fight, it's cute, i'll never forget him. He'd be perfect. The only thing, is that he's straight. I've never really asked him but i'm like 99.99% sure. But one day i'll let him know, it'll be a weight off my shoulders. The best thing to do is tell them how you feel and tell them that you hope it won't be awkward.
—Guest Oh boy.

help

I just turned 15 and saw two guys both cute so I sit in class early morning when one of theme comes to class early he sits next to me and wait for his friend to come so we are the only to siting and I kinda stare at him and he look at me to but I am kinda worry because I also like his friend but they both act straight but when I am near both I kinda get nerves and so do they his friend always looks at me and sometime talks to me and he some times hurt me because he say something that like about him but he then start acting sopply straight and hurts me and I don't know what to do pleas help
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Aaron

I'm a 13 year old guy. I'm bi-curious. I have a girlfriend and so does my best friend that I have a crush on. We've been friends since 5th grade and we're in 8th right now. Anyway, I can't tell if he's gay or not. I've spent the night at his house many times and he's been to mine. He always seems to get close to me and try to cuddle. I don't know. I'm torn on what to do. If I tell him how I feel, will he feel the same (I doubt it). Or will he not want to talk to me and ruin our really strong friendship. Even if his reaction tells me if he's a true friend or not, I still don't want to do it. During P.E. today I was taking off my shirt and I saw him staring at me.... I couldn't tell if he was checking me out, or just happened to look in my direction ? But whatever. I guess I'll tell him when I feel like the time is right. I had everything I wanted to right planned out in my head, and now I can't think of anything else to say.... soo.. Dueces. (: And good luck with your crushes everyone.
—Guest k

Why

I've known this guy for four years and didn't really talk to him til jr. year. Now we're bestfriends and we hungout a ton until recently. I guess I'm bi but I love girls and date girls too but he's the only guy I've liked. He's pretty cute and decent athletic body. We're almost complete opposites, he's the guy that goes out and drinks and get high every weekend and I'm a football jock who is well liked by everyone, not just the cool he has a gf that had made him want to be a better person so he stopped smoking and recently told me that he loves her, at this time i didn't love him but I thought he was cute. On st patty's day me and him got drunk, well I was buzzed he was waste. I took care of him that who night even tho he was bein a dick to me. He admitted to me that he fell for me and then kissed me, I kissed back of course and told him I loved him but he said it was a mistake and told me itll be best if I leave. the next day I told him wat happened since he didnt remember
—Guest Travisg

Why

I've known this guy for four years and didn't really talk to him til jr. year. Now we're bestfriends and we hungout a ton until recently. I guess I'm bi but I love girls and date girls too but he's the only guy I've liked. He's pretty cute and decent athletic body. We're almost complete opposites, he's the guy that goes out and drinks and get high every weekend and I'm a football jock who is well liked by everyone, not just the cool he has a gf that had made him want to be a better person so he stopped smoking and recently told me that he loves her, at this time i didn't love him but I thought he was cute. On st patty's day me and him got drunk, well I was buzzed he was waste. I took care of him that who night even tho he was bein a dick to me. He admitted to me that he fell for me and then kissed me, I kissed back of course and told him I loved him but he said it was a mistake and told me itll be best if I leave. the next day I told him wat happened since he didnt remember
—Guest Travisg

Ughh why?...

So I was a jr in highschool and I liked this kid I semi knew and talked to. He is the cutest kid evar! I'm semi open to being gay and I had told a friend or two I liked this kid so they said tell him how you feel. So I did. He took it well but unfortunately he's not even bi, he said if he were gay he would date me but he's not;( but atleast I told him were still friends and stuff . It's a crazy ass world out there so you never know unless you try:) -Baltimore
—Guest Sam

Ughh why?...

So I was a jr in highschool and I liked this kid I semi knew and talked to. He is the cutest kid evar! I'm semi open to being gay and I had told a friend or two I liked this kid so they said tell him how you feel. So I did. He took it well but unfortunately he's not even bi, he said if he were gay he would date me but he's not;( but atleast I told him were still friends and stuff . It's a crazy ass world out there so you never know unless you try:) -Baltimore
—Guest Sam

confused love

Am 17 an a senior in highschool. I have this one friend that I am falling for, and I have known him for 6 years and we have always been best friends. No one knows am gay either. My friend says that he likes girls, but he let's me lay my head on his chest, and he plays with my hair, and tells me he loves me, I don't wanna take it the wrong way or distory are great friendship, but sometimes I get depressed that I can't tell him how much I feel for him. I don't know how to talk to him about it.
—Guest hopless lover :(

Hopeless

He's the one, that's it. It's never going to happen for us, we'll say goodbye at the end of the year, then go our separate ways. I just can't imagine ever finding love with anyone. If it isn't him, which it wont be, I just feel like giving up.
—Guest fkdhseog

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