From the article: I'm Gay & A Girl Asked Me Out - What Should I Do?
A reader posted this question to the community forum:
"So last night i was hanging out with my friends and one of them is a girl ( they don't know i'm gay) and she kinda asked me out. I said i would think about it. shes a really close friend and i enjoy spending time with her and my friends but i don't have feelings for her. and i'm scared to say no and if i do she just going to tell all of my other friend. and then there going to start wondering why i said no. so what should i do ? :(
Here are some other readers' suggestions. Feel free to leave your own advice below! Share Your Tips!OK
- Ok what you should do is be nice about it I know I had the same problem you do I am 17 and gay also and a girl asked me out. Basically this take he out to a movie and luch simple as that.
- —Guest Alex
Not ready yet.
- If you are not ready to come out yet, simply tell her you are not interested but you love her. Focus on her and make her feel better.
- —Guest momo
your question answer
- raelly if u love her,there is nothing to hide go ahead and tell her.
- —Guest akeem
not gay
- i'm gay and a girl asked me out i will go whit her .......trust me my girlfriend is a bitch......
- —Guest mado
What to do.
- I would take the date. Even if you're gay, you could at least see where it goes. Who knows, you might find out you're bisexual.
- —Guest Whateves.
my opinion
- you should tell her straight out that you are gay and since you said you guys are really close friend, then i believe she would keep that as a secret. If she does blurt it out then it would show that she isn't that good of a friend after that. trust me there is nothing to lose. There is nothing wrong with being gay especially now, its the 21st century!
- —Guest sarah
speaking from a girl's perspective...
- just tell her you don't like her that way. trust me, i may be bi, but i DO know how straight girls think. she won't think anything bad about you, she probably will tell her friends and have a good cry but then she'll be back to normal and completely over it. lord knows i've had my share of these kinds of things. you don't have to tell her your gay unless you want to, but if you do, you may save her the cry. you just have to understand, once you tell her everyone else might find out too, and that's not a bad thing, you just have to prepare yourself for their reaction, and if you're religious then pray. it'll all work out in the end, nothing stays the way it is forever. Good luck! ^_^
- —Guest kory
your question
- If it were me and i did what you did i would just let her know that i really do like her as a friend and i don't want the friendship to be ruined just from her trying to ask me out...i would apologize ferr not wanting to date her and just tell her about me being gay when i am ready....honestly that's all there really is to do...you need to be honest with her...but only if you are ready to tell her...
- —Guest nobody
