Readers Respond: How Can I Tell My Friends I Like Other Girls

Lindsey writes:

I don't really know if I'm gay or bi yet, all I know is that I like other girls. I guess I've always been attracted to girls, but I just realized a few months ago that it was called being gay and that it was okay :) Most of my friends are girls, and I'm really afraid to tell them because I'm afraid they'll think I'm going to hit on them or something, even though I just see them as friends. Our librarian is gay and she's really nice so I know there's at least 1 adult I can talk to. I'm just scared of telling my friend-girls.

Here are some other readers' suggestions. Leave your own advice below!

No big deal

i am bisexual but really afaid to tell ppl about it especilly my friends like, 3 weeks ago at school i finally had confidence and told my good friend and well she was shocked at first but she said it was ok :) she wont say anything and then in my head i kinna idk ? i kinna got alittle crush on my good friend but still i havent told her cause it might ruen our friendship so...ill find the right time to tell her some day :)... also i like other girlz but like guys help me !

—Guest mygirl34

i like girls

i like looking at girls when they walk by, and i had sex with a girl before.

—Guest elisha

help

Hello latley I have been scared about coming out. I told everyone in my seventh grade class and two neighbors but I go to a Christan school where its a huge sin. I don't think it is. my friends that r guys, they don't care. but the girls get me neverous. I told them that it was a phase, but i lied to them. I like one of them too. HoW do I tell her?

—Guest emishly

what to do..

im still alittle confused.. ive finally accepted myself as a bisexual, ive only kissed one girl and that was just goofing around with a friend before i had even really accepted my feelings towards girls. im still on the fence about telling my friends because im nervous what they might think but at the same time i beleive they will be accepting, but im still nervous that it will change our relationship even tho i dont have those sort of feelings towards them. im hoping to tell my friend (the first person) in a couple days! lets hope it goes good..

—Guest confused!

just come out and say it.

i was in a problem like this and i have only told about 6 ppl now but my parent knows and all i did was i went up to my friends and told them that we were all realy good friends and it was time they knew i was bisexual and some were shocked and others said it was ok but you will never know what they truly think till you come out and tell them face to face or txt or online which ever 1 is better for you i told my mom over a txt and she was ok but my dad is a whole dif story but i think you should just come out and tell them if they are realy your friends they will understand :) good luck :)

—Guest Tory Hester

The Straight Forward Way

I've been getting crushes on girls for the past 2 years. I only recently accepted the fact that I am bisexual. When I came out to my friends and family, it was just 'sorry to spring this on you so suddenly, but I'm bi-sexual' it's straight forward and it can't be misinterrpreted. My friends and family are dealing with it ok, mostly. But be quick to mention that it is not contagious XD my little sister is convinced it's like the flu =.=' So, just come out and say it with no room for other interpretations. Do it over text, phone, or in person. Don't act like it's a huge deal, and your friends and family won't treat it like one. Even though it IS a huge deal for us, it makes it easier for others this way. Try not to take any disbelief offensively, it's a big shock, and they may go into denial *coughmymomcough* and act like you have no clue what you are talking about. Just stay strong, and stay proud, don't let self doubts to stay for long. Hope this helped! Ciao ^_~

—ALittleBitOdd

What Do You Think?

Do YOU think that being gay is wrong? Or do you think of it as not a big deal? Think about your friends to, if they truly are your friends they would understand, and dont worry if they are weirded out by it at first they just need time to adjust to your true life... I am half and half I love Girls but I have always had HUGE crushes on guys. So I just think of girls As Gorgeouse beings, and guys as sexy monsters! :3 so just do what you think is right, it is YOUR decision and no one can choose your life for you.

—Guest AdviseGuru

definately not easy to do...

I started by telling one of my very close friends. i passed her a note one day telling her that im bisexual, once i got her support i felt confident enough that my friends would accept me. now im out to all my close friends and it feels great. i suggest having at least one person you can turn to for support b4 going all out, its easier to handle the reactions with someone by your side...

—Guest chevvygirl195

there is no easy way

there is no easy way to tell someone about a change in your lifestyle, even though society is moving towards being more accepting. I was in grade 7 (4 years ago) and I told my closest friends by writing it on a piece of paper and passing them a note in class (we all sat at the same table, although I couldn't bring myself to say it outloud). they took it really well, and i couldn't be happier. since then, I've had a girlfriend who helped me come out to my immediate family (still working on the extended). whichever way you feel is the easiest and most comfortable for you, I say go for it. maybe start with one friend and see how she reacts, then when you tell the rest, you'd have a support system. there is nothing scarier than going at it alone, trust me. Best of luck!

—Guest candie275

actions

find yourself a girlfriend first and figure it out and if you are introduce her to your friends and tell them then as well atleast you wont be alone doing so

—Guest robbj14

wow.

i'm confirmed to myself as bisexual now because i like other girls but i like boys too. i understand how you feel, i struggled for 2 years and finally came out to my friends a bit over a week ago. i still haven't told my family, but really, it's worth coming out because it's a step towards accepting yourself as well as possibly towards others accepting you. it's not easy, but it's important to know/ show who you are and then, gradually, become proud of it.

—Guest nodaybut2day34

just say it

you'll be surprised how understanding friends can be. if they're real friends they'll accept it. let them know how you feel and let them know you don't see any of them that way. I was scared to tell my friends, but once i did it felt like weight had been lifted off my shoulders. i didn'y have to hide it anymore

—Guest nata