Who Did You Come Out to First?
I actually didn't really have to come out to who I planned on coming out to. It was at a couple of my friend's birthday party and a guy friend said something about gay or bi people, I don't recall which, and my best friend who was sitting next to me said you know she's bi right? I looked at her like whoa how did she know? She looked back and said we're best friends of course I'd know. It was surprising, but it made me feel really happy. Of course after that pretty much all my friends knew and I've even told one of my brothers, my sister, and a niece close in age.
Were There Any Challenges?
For me it was agonizing debating whether I should come out, less so for my friends than my family. I have pretty bad social anxiety so I tend to blow things way out of proportion in my head, often fearing the worst in every new situation. Though accepting that I am bisexual was actually a breeze. It took me awhile to notice that I was actually finding women attractive as well as men. The first time I noticed was with a foreign exchange student I sat next to in algebra. Back on topic my biggest problem now is coming out to my parents which I do plan on doing. I mainly wish to wait until I move out so I won't have to be in the same house if there is any awkwardness. Though I do suspect that my mom believes I like women totally, but that is a story for another day.
Advice
- Come out when you're ready, not when someone else thinks you should. You need to be comfortable with yourself when you do it.
- Try not to do it while whoever you're coming out to is engrossed in a show. Wait until they're free or at least on a commercial so their attention will be on you.
