If you are trying to figure out if you are a transgender teen:
- How do you feel about your assigned gender? (That's the gender you were given at birth. It is usually based on the idea that people with a penis are males and people with a vagina are female).
- Do you feel like your body matches the way you feel about being male or female?
- Do you feel comfortable with labels like "male" and "female?"
If you think you might be a transsexual teen:
- If you have a male body, do you wish it was female? If you have a female body, do you wish it was male?
- Do you want to change your body so that it physically matches how you feel inside?
- Do you sometimes feel like you are "trapped" in the wrong body?
"I'm kind of confused. You see, I think I might be a boy. Or a genderqueer. Not sure. I act like a boy in a lot of ways. But occasionally I act like a girl. I'm more comfortable acting like a guy though. And I HATE wearing skirts, dresses, or too much pink. Plus, the only reason my hair is past my shoulders, is because my mom wants it that way. Lastly, I play sports, hate make up, do woodworking, and a lot of the other things boys are thought to do when they're growing up. Oh, and usually when I'm daydreaming of adventure or something, I'm a boy."
Some teens feel that gender labels simply don't to apply to them. They may identify as genderqueer. Genderqueer people don't adhere to strictly male or female identities and roles. A genderqueer person often chooses to present as neither clearly male, nor clearly female, but rather as a gender-free individual, whose identity may shift and change over time.
Remember, there is no one way to be transgender or transsexual, and you need to express your gender in whatever way you are most comfortable. But if it takes time to figure that out, that's perfectly fine.