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"Constantly Imagining the First Time," Gay and Lesbian Teens Talk About Sex


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A Gay Teen Feeling Pressured to Have Sex
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Miles is a 16-year-old who loves Ellen DeGeneres, Matt Damon, punk, pop and rock music as well as biking and tennis. Here he explains how being younger than his friends can complicate questions about sex.

"I'm 16, and out to my school. There are 5 gay guys in my school, including myself, and 2 lesbians. When ever I'm around my boyfriends - meaning the gay guys - they sometimes talk about what great sex they've all had and what awesome boyfriend they're with.

I on the other hand am single and have never had sex with a guy. They joke with me about being the baby, cause' I'm the youngest, and how innocent I am because I haven't had sex.

I've only been with 2 guys the past couple of years and I feel that I am left out and to "fit in" I have to have sex.

They pressure me about it and I do feel bad and like an outcast because I mean what gay guy wouldn't want to have sex? But then having to face public humiliation about it...

It bothers me quite a bit. I feel like I'm being pressured to have sex with the first person who offers it. I've been offered to do it orally but I said no, because it would be meaningless."

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