Talk to my parents about having sex? Are you crazy? It would be way too weird.
For a lot of teens the idea of talking about sex with a parent is not a very appealing one. But keep in mind, parents may be a lot more open-minded than you give them credit for. Plus, talking to mom or dad can actually help you make a decision.
Keep in mind, every parent will have a different reaction to a teen's announcement that, "Mom, Dad, I'm thinking about having sex." Some parents will be angry, shocked or embarrassed. However, it is also common for parents to be accepting and supportive. Really!
Many parents are pleased that a child feels comfortable enough to discuss sexuality with them. Parents are often able to steer teens in the right direction by offering helpful advice and information, and teens who can talk to their parents about sensitive issues are generally better able to access help in case of a crisis.
Of course, if you know that your parents will react negatively, or if you know they aren't comfortable with your sexual orientation, it might be a better idea to talk to another adult who you trust.
Parents will generally take the news better if:
- They know and like your partner, and you are in a committed, healthy relationship.
- You have made mature decisions in the past.
- They believe you will use protection and see a doctor for checkups.
- They don't think that you are being pressured into sex.
- Having sex does not challenge their morals and beliefs.
Whatever your decision, good luck!
