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I'm Turned On By Gay Porn. Does That Mean I'm Gay?

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Question: I'm Turned On By Gay Porn. Does That Mean I'm Gay?

A lot of interesting questions come up in the community forum. Here's one from a teen wondering if liking gay porn means he's gay.

I am a 19 year old guy and I'm really confused about my sexuality. Thing is I really love watching gay porn. I think its really hot. Most guys my age seem addicted to watching two girls together but for me I think watching two guys is very sexy. I have only started having these feelings over the past year.

My question is do you think you can be straight and still get aroused by looking at men together in porn?

Answer:

Plenty of people who are heterosexual are turned on by gay or lesbian porn. But if this is the only thing that arouses you, it might be a sign that you are gay or bisexual.

As one teen suggested in the forum,

I believe you have to take the possibility [that you are gay] into consideration. It sounds like your appreciation for gay porn needs to be more deeply analyzed so you know why it is that you like it and therefore are able to come to a conclusion (notice i didn't say make a decision).

I couldn't help but notice that not once in the message you posted did you make a reference for the appreciation of women despite your insatiable gay porn appetite.

A lot of teens question their sexual orientation and that is perfectly normal. But there is a lot more to figuring out sexual orientation than just asking yourself what erotic images appeal to you.

Here are some additional things to ask yourself in order to help you figure out your sexual orientation:

  • Who do you usually have crushes on? Is it mainly someone of the same gender?
  • Do you imagine relationships with someone of the same gender?
  • If you dated or had a sexual experience with someone of the opposite gender, how did it make you feel?
  • If you dated or had a sexual experience with someone of the same gender, how did it make you feel?

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