Rape is never a victim's fault. No matter what you are wearing, who you are hanging out with, whether you are high or drunk, flirty or not, no one has the right to force you to do something sexual that you don’t want to do.
However, there are things you can do to help reduce your risk of being a victim.
- It is important to vocalize your feelings. Passivity is often taken for consent.
- Loudly saying, “STOP, YOU’RE RAPING ME!” can send a clear message in a situation which might seem ambiguous.
- Caution should be exercised in situations where people will be drinking. One in three rapes occurs after the perpetrator has been drinking alcohol! In fact, alcohol and not “roofies” or GHB is the most commonly used “rape drug”
- While it is against the law to have sex with someone who is drunk, many victims of rape have been drinking. Be very careful about how much you drink and in what situations you do so.
- It is safer to go out in groups. Develop buddy systems and make plans for dealing with potentially dangerous situations before going out.
- Trust your instincts. If something is making you feel uncomfortable, leave.
It is also important for gay teens to realize that they can be the victims of a same sex attacker or an opposite sex attacker. Rape is not only a crime committed by men against women.
If you have been the victim of a sexual assault, please consider getting help. A good resource is the Rape Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN). They can be reached online or at 1-800-656-HOPE. You can also contact the Anti-Violence Project.