When things just aren't working out in a relationship, is it better to break-up or just "take a break," and what's the real difference between the two anyways?
"Okay so in your guys' opinion what's your definition of "taking a break?" Because I have no idea if I want to take a break with my girlfriend or stay with her? Like idk what's going on anymore. It's such a roller-coaster ride that I'm not sure if I want to get off it or stay on it. But if I tell her I want us to take a break, are we officially breaking up? Or are we just going to give each other space and get back together?"
It sounds like you need to worry more about what you want right now, and less about how a particular phrase will sound to your girlfriend. If you want to end the relationship you really need to explain that that is what you are saying. But if you really do want space you need to come out and say that as well.
Sometimes teens "take a break" as a way to get some perspective and breathing room. Other times, they "take a break" when the thought of really breaking up seems to scary or upsetting.
As another teens says, "Taking a break....I think it's like giving each other space, except a lot of people see it as breaking up. If you want to take a break from her, but then get back together again, you need to be super clear with her that you want to be with her eventually. Give her good reasons why you want to take a break. She might still split up with you though."
You might also want to ask yourself if the relationship is healthy and worth maintaining, or if it wold really be better just to end things. You can read more about that here.
