A gay teen who recently came out has kissing on his mind and asks for advice on how to kiss. He writes:
"Being that I've just now accepted that I'm gay, I'm really interested in this kind of stuff. I was wondering if all the lucky ones out there who have/have had a boyfriend could share some making out/kissing tips.
For most people kissing is the first thing that they do sexually with another person. Kissing is intimate, it's a lot safer than many other forms of sex, and it just feels nice! So it isn't surprising that the, "How do I kiss?" question is a common one from teens of all ages. The Guide to Teen Advice breaks down different types of kissing. Here's her take:
- The French Kiss: an open-mouthed kiss where one person's tongue touches the other person's tongue.
- The Butterfly Kiss get close to the person so the tips of your eyelashes are touching theirs. Then blink very fast so your eyelashes flutter together like butterfly wings.
- The Single-Lip Kiss: take one of your partners lips between yours and gently suck or tug on it.
- The Spiderman Kiss: based on the kiss in the 2002 movie Spider-Man, the Spiderman kiss involves kissing someone whose face is upside-down from yours.
- The Earlobe Kiss: the earlobe kiss involves taking someone's earlobe lightly between your lips and tugging gently downward.
- The Lip Gloss Kiss: wearing a healthy amount of lip gloss or ChapStick, rub your lips on your partners' lips until theirs are coated, too.
- The Nose Kiss: rub you noses back and forth against your partners.
- The Cheek Kiss: a closed-mouth kiss against someone's cheek.
- The Biting Kiss: a more aggressive form of the French kiss where your teeth lightly grab onto your partner's tongue for just a second.
Okay, there are some kissing and make-out methods. But how do you know what the person you are kissing will be into?
A teen on the forum says:
"If you've googled it, (I know I have) almost everyone says that it'll just come to you. And I can honestly say I didn't believe that until I'd kissed someone. I'd suggest just not worrying about it. And don't believe other people's tips. Unless you're kissing the same person they were, it's not going to do much good. Like, I can tell you that if you want to go after my ex-boyfriend, he likes it rough. The more teeth you involve the better. If you want to kiss one of my closest friends, be gentle, because even the slightest hint of teeth turns her off. It all depends on the person. Everyone kisses differently and likes different things. That's part of what makes a first kiss with a different person so special."
Kissing is like a lot of things, the best way to find out what someone is into is simply to ask! That can seem weird but saying something like, "Does this feel okay?" or asking, "Can you show me how you like to kiss?" can go a long way to making the experience pleasureable for both people.
Almost everyone has to go through a first kiss at some point. This can be a great experience, or it can be an awkward one. But rest assured, the person you are kissing, is either kissing for the first time as well, or remembers pretty clearly what it was like to have a first kiss.