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Do All Lesbians Use Dildos During Sex?


Do All Lesbians Use Dildos During Sex?

Some people use electric massagers as sex toys.

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Question: Do All Lesbians Use Dildos During Sex?
When it comes to sex, a lot of people have a fairly limited idea of what goes on between the sheets. For women who have sex with women, this has lead to a common assumption that all lesbians use dildos, or "strap-ons", during sex. And while some lesbians do use sex toys like these, others have no interest in them at all.

Dildos are sex toys that are designed for penetration. These toys come is all shapes, colors and sizes. They may resemble a penis, or they may not.

While some lesbians use sex toys like dildos, or strap-ons (which are basically just didos that can be worn in a harness), others are not into penetration, and are more likely to use a sex toy like a vibrator, which is often used to stimulate the clitoris.

Of course, many lesbians aren't into sex toys. Oral sex and body rubbing might be more their thing. Just as with any group of people, there is a huge range of sexual activity that lesbians participate in, including being celibate and not having sex at all!

One reader says of her experience with sex toys,

"My girlfriend and I have been together for four years. For the first 2 years of our relationship we didn’t even own a vibrator. We decided to spice things up and bought one, but honestly rarely use it. We very easily give each other what we need without the use of toys but both agree that if that's what you are into, go for it!"

Though it is perfectly normal and healthy to use a sex toy, teens should know that is many places it is actually against the law for minors to purchase sex toys.

Some people who cannot legally purchase sex toys, or who can't afford them, create their own by using things like electric massagers or other devices. If a teen does this, it is really important to make sure that the toy is clean, doesn't have shape edges and is not made put of a dangerous or irritating material. It is also important to be very careful about anything you insert in your body, and to never put anything in anus that could slip inside and be hard to remove.

When it comes to sex play, everyone has different likes and dislikes. These often have a lot more to do with individual preferences, than they do with sexual orientation.

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