A 14-year-old high school students writes to the forum:
"I am bi and need someone to love. I feel lonely. But will people view me the same if they know that I am bi? Help me."
Wanting to find someone to love and to have love you back is really powerful. Feeling cared for and connected to others is a strong human desire. But as you probably know, meeting the right person can be tough, particularly for GLBT teens.
Sometimes coming out can help this, but your concern about having people treat you differently if you come out is a valid one.
As another teen says:
"Will people look at you differently if you come out? Well, everyone reacts differently. Everyone I've come out to (which is practically everyone I know) has responded positively, but other people have gotten kicked out of their homes because of it. Do you think you live in a liberal or conservative area? Are there any other openly LGBT people around you? If so, how are they treated? Have you ever talked to friends and family just about basic LGBT issues (like the referendums this November to legalize same-sex marriage in Maryland and Washington and to ban it in Minnesota)? If so, how do/did they respond?"
Those are all really good questions, and thinking about them seriously can really help you make a decision.
Of course, you might decide that people will treat you differently if you come out. So how can you handle that?
If Friends Treat You Differently When You Come Out
As any teen knows, friends are really important. And as you've probably heard one too many times, a friend who doesn't treat you right isn't really worth being friends with. Well, that might sound good on paper, but the thought that friends might reject you for coming out can be really scary.
Hopefully, your friends will be cool enough to accept the fact that you are bisexual, ask questions if they have them, and not make to big a deal of it. But sadly, there is no guarantee that this is how the situation will play out.
Here is information on what to expect after coming out to friends and how to deal with the situation if they do treat you differently...Read more
If Family Treats You Differently When You Come Out?
The fact of the matter is, some parents will treat their kids differently after they come out and others won't. However, the period when you first come out is usually the hardest. Many families who react negatively at first, become more comfortable with the idea that a child is GLBT over time.
Here is information on what to expect after coming out to family and how to deal with the situation if they do treat you differently... Read more
The Love Factor
Coming out is a really big decision and one that you now have a lot more information about. But even if you come out, there is still the question of finding love. You can read more about that here.