Holidays can be tough for gay teens. In fact, contrary to what you might think, depression levels actually tend to get higher during holidays than at other times of the year.
Here are a few reasons why events that are supposed to be festive can end up being really challenging:
- If you aren't out to most of your family people might tease you about a boyfriend or girlfriend who will never exist.
- A homophobic joke might get a big laugh as grandpa carves the turkey.
- If you do have a significant other, he or she might not be welcome to join you even if your siblings are allowed to bring dates.
- You might be cut off from your regular support systems.
As a reader named Betty M. explains,
"All of the holidays are terrible for me. My girlfriend and I have been separated by our homophobic parents and we’re both hated in our families for loving each other. Any talk of being gay or anything sends my parents into an outrage. Every time I have to listen to a gay joke I just want to scream across the table at them to shut up. It makes me so sad."
One way to feel better is to try to stay in touch with friends and partners, even if you aren't physically with them. Get on the phone, go online, even write an old fashioned letter, if it helps you find some comfort during a tough time.
You should also know where you can get outside support if you are feeling bad. For example, the Trevor Project a GLBT teen suicide hotline, is there to help teens 24 / 7.
Also think about your actions. Is now the time to come out? Will it make a situation better or worse? Can you talk to your parents about what you are going through. If you can't is there anyone around who you feel comfortable talking to?
Whatever you decide, good luck. You'll make it through. Really.
