A teen looking for love writes to the forum:
"I am a guy who loves conversation. But whenever I am chatting or making a bond with another gay guy, one of the most common thing they would say is a SEX related matter, like, Do you want to have sex with me now cam 2 cam? Or, they write down how they want me to touch them. This defeats my goal of seeking a true relationship. ARE ALL GAY GUY SO HORNY?"
This sounds really annoying. First off, no, not all gay guys are just looking for sex. Like you, plenty are looking for relationships that may or may not involve sex.
One thing to consider is where you are meeting these guys. If most of this is done online, think about the types of sites you are going to. You should also think about how you phrase things. As unfortunate as it is, some people might read a post that says, 'looking to meet guys' as 'looking for sex' even though that isn't what you meant! So being specific about what you are looking for is important.
The internet is a great place for gay teens to meet others but you can also think about some other options.
Depending on where you live, there may or may not be community activities for gay teens to participate in. But with some quick searching, you can usually find out if anything is going on in your area.
One idea is to join a gay / straight alliance at your school, or start one if it doesn't already exist.
You can also check out the Advocates for Youth, GLBT youth group finder. All you need to do, is type in your state, and it will tell you if there is a group in your area!
So what types of things can you do if you get involved with a gay youth group? Some offer safe places to hang out and meet other GLBT teens, some offer counseling, and some offer parties or dances.
Look, there is no guarantee that meeting someone in person will mean that they are automatically going to be looking for the same kind of relationship that you are, but if meeting guys online isn't working out, it can't hurt to give it a shot!
Do you have any tips or experiences with the sex / relationship divide that you'd like to share? Do so here!
