Okay, I really need some advice. I'm in high school and I have this group of friends I hang out with. It's me, my boyfriend, my best friend, and her boyfriend. I'm a girl and I've always considered myself straight, but recently I've had feelings for my best friend. She's okay with bi and gay people, she even has a lesbian friend. I like my boyfriend but not nearly as much as I like her. I've never felt this strongly about anyone before and it freaks me out a little that I feel this for a girl. Should I tell her? I don't know what to do, because I'm afraid to tell anyone. Advice?
What you are experiencing is totally normal, but that doesn't mean it's easy!
Telling you boyfriend how you feel could be hard. It might be painful for him to hear that you like someone else, and he might decide to end the relationship. But it's also totally possible that he would be really understanding. You probably have a better sense of how he'll react that anyone!
You should also think about whether you really want to be with him independent of what might happen with your friend.
As to telling your friend, this too, could go a few ways:
- She might feel similarly.
- She might not return your feelings, but still be cool with the situation.
- She might feel uncomfortable and your friendship could be affected.
Before deciding what to do, consider how your friend's or boyfriend's possible reactions would make you feel, and how they could potentially affect your day to day life at school.