Sometime people think only girls, not guys, can be bisexual. However it is totally possible to be a bisexual male!
Have you ever heard that girls can be bisexual, but that guys who claim to be bi are just trying to deny the fact that they are actually gay? If you have, you're not alone. That's because a lot of people believe a lot of misinformation about men and sexual orientation.
Ramon Johnson, About's Guide to Gay Life addresses this issue by listing some common myths about bisexual men. These include:
- Bisexuality is only a phase
- Bi men have to choose to be either gay or straight
- Bisexual men are sexually confused
These are a few of the reasons people think that there is no such thing as a bisexual male. Here are some others:
1) Many of the people making this assumption are basing it on their own experiences. Either they are gay men who have never been attracted to women or they are hetero men who have never been attracted to guys.
2) For some people there is still more of a stigma to being gay, than there is to being a lesbian. So they may assume that it would be more likely for a man to "put off" admitting he was gay by saying he was bisexual, than it would be for a woman to do so.
3) There is a cultural sexualization of bisexual women that doesn't usually extend to men. As a result, more people understand bisexual desires in women than they do in men.
4) The power of myth. If enough people repeat that a man can't be bisexual, but a woman can, then it begins to sound like fact.
Ultimately, despite what a lot of people think, both men and women, guys and girls, can be bisexual.
