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Can People Be Asexual?


Question: Can People Be Asexual?
More and more people are coming out as asexual, hhich refers to not feeling sexual attraction to other people at all.

What Does it Mean to Be Asexual?

Asexuality refers to a sexual orientation. However, unlike people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or straight, individuals who are asexual do not feel sexual attraction. For this reason, people who are asexual may also identify as having no sexual orientation.

Can a Teen Know He or She is Asexual?

Yes. Just like teens might know they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or straight, it is a also possible for a teen to clearly know that he or she is asexual. Of course like all other sexual orientations, figuring out that one is asexual can take many years and sexual orientation may shift over time. It is perfectly normal for a teen to question being asexual for a long time.

Can an Asexual Person Have Intimate Relationships?

Yes, many asexual individuals develop close relationships with other people. Some form lifetime commitments. Often these do not involve sex, but every situation will be different.

Can a Person Identify as GLBT & Asexual?

According to the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network, "Many asexuals with 'romance drives' also have an orientation (they only fall for certain types of people). Some asexuals may decide only to form relationships with a certain type of person for some intellectual reason, or it could be a simple preference like preferring chocolate flavour to strawberry. Other asexuals identify as bisexual because their asexual relationships are not based upon gender (chocolate and strawberry both being very tasty). Asexuals might form unconventional relationships and therefore identify as polyamorous or queer."

What's it Like to Come Out as Asexual

Coming out as any sexual minority can be tough. Many people do not believe that people can be asexual and might try to tell an asexual person that he or she is confused, hasn't met the right person yet or is actually gay. Hearing these types of comments can be really discouraging and can make a person feel like there is something wrong with him. That's why it is helpful to find support from people who you trust or who are going through similar experiences. Though geared towards adults, the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network offers good resources for asexual individuals.

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