Coming out, or openly declaring that you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, is a really big decision. There's no one way to come out. But different issues may come up at different stages of the process, and thinking about them can be helpful both in making a decision about coming out and in actually doing so.
1. Am I Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgender?
Sexual orientation refers to being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or heterosexual (straight). Gender identity refers to feeling male, female or transgender. It is normal for teens to question their identities, but a lot of teens wait to come out until they are certain that they are GLBT.
2. Deciding to Come Out
Once you are secure in your sexual orientation or gender identity, you might begin to think about coming out. Different people feel ready to come out at different times, and really, there is no one way to do so. Asking yourself some important questions like, "Do I have someone I know will support me?" and "How will I feel if I don't get the reaction I am hoping for?" are good things to think about when deciding whether to come out.
3. The Coming Out Conversation
Once you've made the decision to come out, the next step is to actually do so. Some people plan out exactly what they are going to say and who they are going to tell. Others decide to wing it.
4. Getting Suport After Coming Out
Once you come out it can be really helpful to find supportive people and communities. Many teens get support from their families. Others find support in school or community groups.
