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Do All Gay Guys Have Anal Sex?
Do All Lesbians Use Dildos?

Wednesday May 14, 2008

When it comes to same sex sex practices a lot of folks have a pretty limited idea of what goes on between the sheets. Many people assume that all gay guys have anal sex, and that all lesbians use dildos (sex toys designed for penetration). And while plenty of gay guys enjoy anal, and plenty of lesbians use dildos, a whole lot of others don't!

Some gay guys just aren't into anal. They might enjoy oral sex with a partner, mutual masturbation, body rubbing or role play. And while some lesbians use sex toys like dildos, others aren't into penetration at all. Oral sex and body rubbing might be more their thing.

Just as with any group of people, there is a huge range of sexual activity that gay men and lesbians participate in, including being celibate and not having sex at all!

Comments
September 2, 2008 at 12:00 pm
(1) Knut Holt says:

Most guys play with their rear zone and anal region, and wish their partners to play with it.

That’s for sure.

September 8, 2008 at 12:12 pm
(2) Justin says:

Kurt

Me & my boyfriend of 9 months have yet to explore that area of each others bodies…and are in no rush to do so either!

September 15, 2008 at 7:07 pm
(3) dumbass says:

you are gay hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

September 22, 2008 at 3:45 pm
(4) iamgay says:

er i think i see why he named himself dumbass

October 10, 2008 at 12:16 am
(5) Tyler says:

Saying gay guys like anal is false a stigma. It’s split down the middle, most gay guys I’ve spoken to DO NOT do anal. Yet straight couples will do anal. So yes this article is correct it is a myth.

October 27, 2008 at 12:21 pm
(6) reyandguy4ever says:

you all are so gay …i just love it and i want to have anal sex with all of you all

October 28, 2008 at 3:46 pm
(7) Nicole says:

Me and my girlfriend dont use dildos she doesnt like them

November 13, 2008 at 2:48 pm
(8) me says:

Yes i love doing it….it feels so GOOD…

December 4, 2008 at 5:52 pm
(9) Bobby says:

My “husband” and I have been together for 11 years. At first that was all we did but now it’s more painful that anything. We now just enjoy each other in different ways, masturbation and fondling, body rubbing, even cuddling can have a great sexual satisfaction. You don’t have to have anal sex to have a good sexual relationship.

December 23, 2008 at 8:53 pm
(10) Jake says:

Homosexuality is evil and you don’t need a religion to know that.

January 1, 2009 at 2:52 am
(11) Ren says:

Well, that’s a new one, Jake. Did you pull it out of your ass?

January 13, 2009 at 11:22 pm
(12) brett says:

i have been whith my boyfriend for nine years taht is all we did for the firts four years was anelsex but now we do other thins to have a good sexual relationship….

January 15, 2009 at 11:12 pm
(13) curoius chic says:

I was just wanderng if this was true one of my gay friends said that he likes to have sex with his bf thighs??? i know it sounds wierd i dnt get it

January 20, 2009 at 5:09 am
(14) Sam says:

Being gay is so much fun i love using dildos me and my girlfriend use dildos all the time

February 6, 2009 at 5:57 pm
(15) brandon says:

I want to see what it is like to have sex with a male can someone tell me what to do if they some one in cleveland that wants to have sex whats up

February 6, 2009 at 7:33 pm
(16) Drew says:

I am 33 and have yet to meet any gay guy that does not like anal. I would say that 99% of gay guys like anal in one way or the other.

February 8, 2009 at 6:47 pm
(17) Melanie says:

My girlfriend and I have been together for four years. For the first 2 years of our relationship we didn’t even own a vibrator. We decided to spice things up and bought one but honestly rarely use it. We very easily give each other what we need without the use of toys but both agree that if thats what you are into, “Go for it!”

March 6, 2009 at 9:37 pm
(18) Adam says:

Hey,
I’m a straight guy, but I just wanted to leave a message saying kudos to all of you.
Living in this world today as a homosexual has to be terribly difficult, but it’s great to see that no one has given up the dream on equality.

Keep fighting the good fight.

March 18, 2009 at 12:48 pm
(19) Mike says:

And btw, someone as close-minded and unsensitive as you should never be a doctor because you clearly do not understand anything about people who are different from yourselves. Gentleness, compassion, and understanding are qualities NEEDED in the medical community, not garbage like this.

March 18, 2009 at 3:11 pm
(20) Dario says:

Why, Doctor Anon, how very charming. To be as vulgar as you put it : why don’t you just piss of back to your bible and porn mags?
Just because you are in a steadily shrinking minority of people who think that gays are going to destroy the world does not give you the right to come on here and post hateful lies. As for your pictures of protests after prop 8 (I’m assuming they were violent) I would point out the following:
Crusades, in which Christian armies butchered thousands of Muslims
Northen Ireland “troubles” which has killed a large number of both Catholics and Protestants
9/11 & 7/7 bombings, carried out in the name of god
The blowing up or numerous abortion clinic by Christian Fundamentalists (Who also murdered many doctors for the same reason)
all of this death in the name of God. Who are you to assume Moral Superiority? I bet you haven’t read the bible in full. Well, there are accounts of (encouraged by god) genocide, gang rape, and mass slaughter
So there.

April 21, 2009 at 9:02 pm
(21) luvbeinggy says:

Me and my Bf Lucius do it all the time, to tell you the truth, it’s a little bit strange having someone up there, but it’s good.

May 11, 2009 at 10:56 am
(22) Brendon says:

Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now and we’ve had anal sex about 4 times.
I can honestly say that the IDEA of anal sex was much more appealing then the actual process.
Anal play we enjoy as well as MM and oral, but yeah actual anal sex/penetration just isn’t for us.
Also most gay guys I’ve met feel the same way, that it’s something they do rarely and doesn’t make up most encounters.

Just my two cents.

May 21, 2009 at 4:39 pm
(23) Mastablubba says:

Hello Guys

just found this cool bum Shaking vid on youtube…

check it out!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BsoHCukkeUo

May you can share something similar.

happy watching
mastablubba

May 28, 2009 at 10:58 am
(24) whatuguysaredoingiswrong! says:

honestly I don’t think living this gay life is right. I know people that are gay, and oviously I’m not anyone special, but I don’t agree with your lifestlye. It is totally wrong. What you guys do is going against god. It is very shamful to be holding or kissing your partner in public. When I see this it is very disgracful to me and a lot of other people. Are you even thinking about the young children that may see you doing this to another guy, do you think about what impression your leaving on this young (children) person mind. How they will grow up thinking that this is ok. Well it is not good. I would hate for kids to see you, and then think this is ok. I pray for this to stop, but knowing it won’t. If god was ok with gay people , he would have made all humans one sex. Can you make a baby with your partner with your body? No. God made WOMEN able to have a baby for a reason. If he didnt want women and men to be straight he would have slapped a p&ssy or d$ck on everyone. There would have been only one sex if what you guys are doing were right. Most , not , all parents would ask god why this happened to their kid. They most likely would be ashamed of their gay child. All I can say is IF you choose to live this wrong lifestyle , please keep it out of our childrens face. It is not ok to be teaching our children that its ok. It isnt. It you do some research, most gay people are unhappy about their life, god isnt going to improve anything for you . You make your own pain. YOU cause your own unhappiness. Go on youtube and watch transexiuals in Iran. You will see how wrong it is to be gay. Go to San frasico where gays are welcomed with open arms. Your not welcome any where else. Gay people bring shame to everyone!!

May 28, 2009 at 8:40 pm
(25) BLANCA R says:

HeY my name is BLANCA!
I’m Just 15years old!!
I’m a straight gurl!
I like talking to gay guys their realy funny and they know how to act in frount of kids and they know more things then us stright gurls or guys!
I dont like it when a gay guy will hide that’s he’s gay it because it just makes that person like if he was ashame of just being a HAPPy person!!
I Like talking to lots of HAPPy guys!!
“IF your gay don’t hide it be happy about it”

ByE!!

June 16, 2009 at 4:06 am
(26) Bryan says:

Yay to the gays,and there bottom related tomfoolery!

June 16, 2009 at 10:05 pm
(27) Tyler says:

Hey u guys saying its wrong to god. it is but every sin is equal it says in the bible. and u probly masturbate so your calling gay sin think about what ur saying and also leave ur religionists comments to ur self im gay and 100% Christan so all i got to say is shut up!

June 17, 2009 at 3:03 am
(28) Paula says:

Sweety, u cant be gay and 100% Christian. Masturbating is a sin but its not living in sin all day everyday. When your gay , its a certaine lifestyle you chose to live. and you can be Christian when u live totally against what the Bible says. It cleary states that it is wrong to be Gay and that God dosent approve of it. If you “claim” to be a Christan then you are to live a “CHRIST” like life. Everyone sins, but when u do sin, you are to repent and ask God for forgiveness and try to NOT commit that same sin. but how can u do that when ur gay all day? Theres no repent. Its your life. Chose what you want. But dont embarress God and claim to be a follower of His when ur really not..

June 18, 2009 at 10:39 am
(29) Tisto says:

Hey you guys arte just a bunch of homophobes what we do in the bedroom is our buisness not yours and where exactly in the bible does it say its against godd to be gay what page and if godd didnt want us to be gay straight or bi he would have never given us the genes to be he would have made us all the same way and its ok to teach kids this is ok because if they are gay there probly dieing inside because they cant tell annyone so whats wrong with us eh you know the way you talk to us is a form of racisim so up yours

June 23, 2009 at 4:45 pm
(30) Henry says:

I am a Christian and 100% gay. All you fundamentalists and creationists must stop a moment from your beliefs of fire and brimstone. Do you think I chose to be gay? A difficult life, being questioned constantly, having to defend your true identity? It took a lot of hard work to accept myself.
Why are the homophobes reading this page? Are you in doubt? And the so called Christians condemning us… What is up with you? Are you spreading the image of Christ by judging us?
Live and let live!

June 29, 2009 at 3:56 am
(31) Colton. says:

so your saying that you’ve only masterbated once? because if not your basicly the same as a gay person when were looking a sinning. and you have WAY more a a choice to masterbate then you do being gay.

July 6, 2009 at 2:10 pm
(32) him says:

I’m a straight guy, but I LOVE anal from my girl. Strapons arnt just for lesbians.

July 20, 2009 at 8:11 am
(33) Happy says:

My partner had never done anal when I met him.He quickly learned that I love when he is inside me and he can satisfy me adequately. We are lucky in that he likes to give and I like to take . It didnt take him long to start experimenting with me as his willing partner and it has gone from great to unbelievable.Not all gay guys are like me , infact he doesnt like it if I screw him . This doesnt mean he is the more dominant partner as quite the opposite is true.I urge all guys gay or straight to become familiar with that area and enjoy.

July 20, 2009 at 6:00 pm
(34) George says:

Masturbation is NOT a sin! In fact it can help prevent prostate cancer! Any good urologist will tell you that ejaculating regularly is VERY important for a man. Abstaining can cause all kinds of prostate problems. Masturbating is a perfectly natural & healthy thing. Shame on you who still believe these primitive old wives tales!

July 25, 2009 at 11:03 pm
(35) andy says:

im 14 and i hate anal sex i like riming and deep throat kissing and oral and lots of body rubing

July 31, 2009 at 11:38 pm
(36) Tim says:

i was just browsing the different lgbt articles and i came across this one, this article is extremely accurate, my partner and i do enjoy anal sex together but we also have many other close friends of ours who simply dont enjoy it. It really goes by prefrence not “its the only way to do it”

August 2, 2009 at 8:44 am
(37) Joe says:

I’m straight but a little bi-curious. I would do anal with another guy but I wouldn’t let him do anal on me.

August 9, 2009 at 8:56 am
(38) James says:

I am gay and am definately not into anal sex although it has happened to me once and vice versa, I didn’t want it to happen again. There are other methods of pleasure and intimacy with another guy.

But also I don’t go to gay bars as I am not into stereotypes and rubbish music which they always seem to play.

As for you ‘whatuguysaredoingiswrong’ well I think you have a problem and gay guys are unhappy because of people like you. One day if you have a child (unless you already do) and that child grows up and is gay and tells you that, what will you do? Sounds like you will either kick him/her out or something which is much worse.

Almost all of my friends are straight and none of them have a problem with gay people. One of my female friends is gay and she has a daughter who is absolutely happy that her mum is happy.

If God is real, why do you think there are gay people? Ever heard of Charles Darwin? Some creatures are only of one sex as that is evolution. Creatures reproduce generally for that reason only yet others, like ourselves, don’t just have sex to makes babies.

‘whatuguysaredoingiswrong’ if you love God why didn’t God help you with your spelling? Ever heard of the apostrophe?

August 17, 2009 at 3:16 am
(39) Brittany says:

I would just like to comment as a straight girl and say that I have many gay friends. Both female and male, and I support them 100%. In fact one of my gay guy friends has a serious boyfriend now, and I am extremely happy for him and his significant other. They make an adorable couple. I just really felt the need to show many of you that there are understanding straight allies.

August 24, 2009 at 12:44 pm
(40) Jerk says:

I’d like to have anal sex

August 26, 2009 at 2:51 am
(41) Aerial says:

now,now people no need to get all defensive about what everyone else is saying.
everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so let them say what they feel the need to say.

what i dont understand is if straight christian people dont like hearing all this stuff about gays and gay sex, then why bother coming on a website that is full of these gay forums…

seriously lets have some common sense here. dont like it, dont read it.

anyways, im a lesbian and for me its true….

i do like using dildos….the penetration is what i like

but i love GIVING oral to a female
receiving isnt bad at all but id much rather give than receive…its something we both enjoy.

and plus…i have a tongue ring ;)

September 2, 2009 at 8:46 pm
(42) ASDF says:

yOUR gay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 7, 2009 at 2:15 am
(43) Thinkaboutthis says:

Think about this: even animals have the smarts not to have sex with the same gender….its a pity to say animals are smarter then you, isnt it!

September 8, 2009 at 12:24 am
(44) Student-Man says:

Homosexuality is sick! Only a man and woman relationship is real love. Homosexuality is fake, phoney and disgusting. . . and God does not like it guys and girls!

September 10, 2009 at 3:06 pm
(45) jamie says:

im sick of these homophobic b***s tbh,, if you dont like gays then fine,, dont,, but dont say its wrong coz god said,, GOD said this and GOD said that,, he never made us, and its not wrong to be gay,, its not a life you can just choose to do,, your born with the emotions and sexual feelings,, not like we have much of a choice,, if we dont like ****** we dont like ****, if you do then fine,, i dont care,, just keep ur mouths shut if u cant say anything nice.

September 10, 2009 at 3:17 pm
(46) TASTY says:

IM GAY YAYYYYYYYYYY ME!! BITE ME WHO EVER GOT A PROBLEM TASTY FROM THA BURG

September 10, 2009 at 9:13 pm
(47) James says:

ASDF, did you ever learn about English grammar?

Thinkaboutthis, there are other mammals that want to have sex with the same gender.

Student-Man, are you sure you are a student as students are not that thick or do you live in the USA? There are a lot of straight people which have no idea what love means so use the ‘f word’ and ’sh@g’ too. I find that repulsive!

September 20, 2009 at 7:39 pm
(48) woopwoop x says:

im gay and i haven’t had sex with my bf adam but i think he wants to it duse my head in wen im out with him and holding his hand and stuff and all we get is dirty lookes of every one who whalks past what is there problem we dun nothing rong why carnt the exsepet it :(

October 5, 2009 at 11:08 pm
(49) tessita says:

Hey! I am straight and 100% Christian!!!! The PASTOR of my church is a lesbian and one of the best people I know! I have major problems with ppl who say nasty things about gay ppl. Do you want someone to tell you its bad to be heterosexual???? I’m all for freedom of opinion, but keep your nasty prejudices to yourselves! As for you, Student-Man, who are you to say what God does or doesn’t like? Are you God? NO! He/She can speak for his/herself perfectly fine! And please, someone tell me in what book/chapter/verse in the Bible it says that being gay is bad! HURRAH FOR GAY MARRIAGE RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love y’all! (I’m from Pennsylvania, btw….

October 12, 2009 at 4:21 pm
(50) stephen says:

cant believe that their is ignorant people lik you in this world. As you try to understand us i try to understand you, and ur cold hearted self. Being gay is not wrong, and yes it is the wright thing to do. Homosexuality should not be hidden in any way or form, just lik heterosexuals we have morals, and we know what good, and bad, and what should be exposed to children. Can you please tell me how many homosexuals you have seen fighting in the street, how many have you seen stealing, have you seen killing, have you seen getting divorse. Yes you idiot none, because we are just as good as you are, or in some cases people who love more, and have more understanding of what real morals, and yet we dont need religion to know that. God loves us, and thats why he made us. And as you said you ignorant god dint make everyone one sex , because their woulnt be any reproduction, thats why he made straight people with hearts to help us have a family, a to get thru this bitter sweet world, and people like you.
thank you and have a good day
get it staraight.
and dont stay ignorant.

October 23, 2009 at 4:54 am
(51) whatyouguysaredoingiswrong!!!! says:

if there was no god what is the purpose of life?why were we put on earth?to drink and have sexual relations with the same sex? Read sodem and Gomorrah. Basically the men of sodem surrounded Abrahams place and asked for the male guest . Abraham and his nephew lot, denied and offer the men two virgins instead. In the end all the people who went against god, they were set on fire and sent to hell. And when I do have any children I would keep them away from people like you. I do not live in a poor area so my future children will not grow up thinking that this life style is ok. I will guide my children to heaven. And yes you do choose to be gay. I met a young man that was misguided but he eventually found god and excepted gods wishes. He is now happily married with children of his own and couldn’t be happier. And how could people like me make a gay person unhappy. You are choosing to do the things you do and that is what makes you unhappy in life.

October 23, 2009 at 5:15 am
(52) whatyouguysaredoingiswrong. says:

Gay people were put on earth to show people that your life style is wrong! To look at you unhappy life, and see that this can’t be all there is to life. There is something more. I just hope more people will find god. No one wishes for anybody to go to hell. You make your own choices in life and you have to live with your own punishment. Answer me this. What happens when you die?? Is that it?? No it isnt. Not everyone is religious. But are all your unanswered questions being answered? Every city has gay people in it. And one that teaches about god can’t be gay, or they are not a true believer. I’ve heard a lot of stories about gay people and I know that they bring that pain the their life themself. A women is meant to be with a man. That is just how we were meant to be. It is normal to see a man embrace his love into his arms, and it is ok for children to see that. But if you choose to be gay why do you have to do that in public? We do not want to see that. To see two men holding hands, kissing, that is just stupid. Have respect for what others might see. Sure we can walk away or not look but if we see that its a little hard to not think about it, when it is wrong! Go to a private place and do as you please.

October 27, 2009 at 7:59 pm
(53) leaveusaloneplease says:

This is the second time that I had to come onto something like this because of ppl who bad mouth gays,there is nothing wrong with us,and shame on you who think that gays should die and burn in hell, do you think that I chose to be gay, if you notice,many gay boys are surrounded by girls, and many of them are pretty,but they still love the men they are with,it is sad,i am 15,and i understand things better than u older ppl do when it comes to being gay and how life is,so dont make our lives more difficult just because u dont like us,if u r black would u like ppl to say things about u and put u down,i sure wouldnt i try to love everyone

Good day to all of you who agree with me

November 2, 2009 at 11:09 am
(54) chriss says:

I love anal sex it brings u close to the other guy your with i like to rim b4 anal sex so i know wat the guys ass tastes like b4 full penetration.

November 3, 2009 at 2:48 am
(55) random teen says:

im gay and a struggling christian and here’s what i have to say.

1. it is possible to be gay and a christian, a thief and a murderer can be a christian as long as they try and change themselves
2. being a teenager going through this really sucks
3. other christians or religious people stop saying “going against god” and “abomination against god” not the most persuasive words and its incorrect, those are YOUR OWN OPINIONS (though i agree with them) stop forcing them on other people
4. These posts arent for evangelizing its about random gay fetishes… why are you here…
5. i have too many mixed views and im only 16 plus for anyone who cares im one of the few black kids in an mainly white town…

November 6, 2009 at 8:29 pm
(56) Raelity Cayne says:

Sorry, this isn’t really connected to the current argument, but in response to whatuguysaredoingiswrong’s question, “If there is no God what is the purpose of life?”

Life – nature’s way of keeping meat fresh!

I did not make that up myself, I think it’s from a show on BBC.
And go gays! You are all wonderful, unique, and precious people! Straight and bi people too! And everyone else!

PS – except for all the ones saying that some people are “wrong” or “bad.”

PPS – Hooray! Ref. 71 passed! (I live in Washington State.)

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