Question of the Week: If a Girl Kisses Another Girl Does That Means She's Lesbian or Bi?
Friday September 21, 2007
Question:
If a girl kisses another girl does that means she's lesbian or bi?
Answer:
A lot of teens experiment with same gender experiences. Sometimes this means that the teen is gay, lesbian or bisexual. But sometimes it doesn't.
Some teens choose to call themselves "bi-curious." It is also perfectly normal for a teen to question his or her sexual orientation.
Sexual activity is often an indication of a person's sexual orientation, but it doesn't have to be. The only real way to know if some one is gay, lesbian or bisexual is if they tell you!
Comments
SO IF I CHECK OUT OTHER GURLS,AND LIKE IF SOMTIMES I WISHED I COULD BE WITH HER OH LIKE IF I WULD JUST HAVE 1 TOUCH DOES THAT MAKE ME A BISEXUAL PERSON?
yes. being gay is wrong
Being Gay is not bad, im sickened by all of the close minded people
being gay is most deffiantly not wrong
It’s something you can’t choose or stop
but I take it as a gift & an honor because not every
one can handle it.I believe every one that’s gay
is special in God’s eyes beacause He only picks
the strong ones that he know can handle it.
About what Bee said, I’m 16 and my parents are hardcore catholics that hate homo-sexuals, so when my friends accidentally let slip that I was gay over this summer, my life was hell and kind of still is, I have to lie a lot and lie about where I go and what I’m doing, its weird, my parents will actaully let me go over to a guys house but not a girl.
I think about God, and I wonder if I’m here to show God if my parents can love me as I am, so far they haven’t. My parents think they’re open minded and good, but the way they indirectly hate me hurts a lot
actually Bee, allowing ur fleshly temptations to OVERPOWER you is a weakness. at least trying to practice the right thing and conquering the temptation is a sign of strength… God said if u deny him, so shall he deny you in heaven. yeh no one really knows what happens to us after death, but u still wanna be ready juss in case. thatz a big risk. itz unknown. if u kno something is not right and itz obvious that it juss does not GO [lol], y r people always tryin to change up something and fukk up the way life is supposed to be thatz why the world is the way it is. earth was meant to b a pure place until so much filth went on… people have no respect or appreciation… they juss live and think they run the universe. people are in for a rude awakening after they die. and God’s juss sitting back waiting… while they think they doing somethin…
K, do you really think that God would approve of your judging? Isn’t there a bible verse that reads, “Judge not, that ye be not judge.”
I’m sure you will see the wrath of God when you arrive in Heaven as well. (If that is even where you are headed.) Live and let be!
Also, you need to learn how to spell and type properly.
i think im bi because i’ve had crushes and i’ve had sexual activites with them. I liked it but never had a real relationship…I’ve done it twice but with the same girl. It always runs through my mind if i am or not. Part of me says “FOR **** SURE I AM.” but then the other side of me says, “maybe…your going through a stage or your just trying to fit in with everyone else.” I’m too shy to ask a girl out even if i really like them. HHHEEELLLPPP
If you really think God is going to be waiting for you in heaven when you die and turn you away because you are gay then you are completely idiotic. I wouldn’t even want to enter a heaven were gays and lesbians were not allowed in. I would rather go to hell.
And resisting temptation? please go see the movie “but I’m a cheerleader” because it shows how full of **** opinions like that are. But I defend your right to think what you wish just don’t go spreading your work like a morman missionary.
i am a bi teen and i think in no way is it wrong to be gay. people qwho judge us odn’t understand what we’re going through and if we choose to be gay, it’s our chocie and no one else’s. like what stephanie said “Judge not, that ye be not judge.”
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Yea; im bi.
theres nothing wrong with
it. at first i was confuesd
and now im with girls.and guys.
im enjoying life:]
I’m gay. My partner and i played with each other before. It’s not wrong/
God destroyed the city of Sodom and Gommorah because of Homosexuality.WAKE UP!
This is ridiculous!
The question was whether or not a girl kissing a girl made her gay/bi, and NOT whether or not homosexuality/bisexuality is right or wrong. Can we leave religious/social beliefs out of this and stick to the real issue, please?
However, for the record, I believe being gay/bi is perfectly natural and valid and we should all be who we are and let each other get on with it.
In answer to the question, I’m a straight woman (though occasionally a little bi-curious) and I have kissed girls in the past. I admit as a teenager I questioned my sexuality sometimes, but kissing girls did not alter my sexuality one bit – deep down I have always known what/who I am. Kissing girls was okay, but not as fun as kissing guys.
There is no one answer to this question – only the individual girl will know how she feels and what she is.
To everyone who mentions the biblical STORY, of sodom and gomarr…watever. i did some reasearch and here are some other things your precious bible says
If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately. Deuteronomy 22:13-21
If a married person has sex with someone else’s husband or wife, the Bible commands that both adulterers be stoned to death. Deuteronomy 22:22
Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced. Mark 10:1-12
The Bible forbids a married couple from having sexual intercourse during a woman’s period. If they disobey, both shall be executed.Leviticus 18:19
If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir. Mark 12:18-27
If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy’s genitals, her hand shall be cut off and no pity shall be shown her. Deuteronomy 25:11-12
You guys shouldnt be sitting here talking about whether or not its right to be straight/bi/lesbian/gay. Does it really matter? They are people its their choice not yours. If you wanna judge someone by that you need to rot in hell because thats being judgemental. Im straight and i have many lesibian gay and bi friends and i look at them no differently.
homosexuality is a sin. God still loves them but they cant enter the kingdom of heaven. another thing. when we christians tell people that are practicing homosexuals that they cant enter the kingdom of God, we arent judging them. we are passing on the warning from the only one that can judge them that what they are doing is going to land them in the lake of fire for all eternity.
Religion is a crock… Welcome to the 21st century.
I’m gonna be straight honest. yes being homosexual is a sin i Gods eyes. BUT so is being judegmental and curseing and thinkning dirty thoughts and drinking and smoking and sex and all these other things. No sin is worse then another. And as christians we are to wrap our arms around any one who is hurting and confised. Accept them for who they are. I am not homosexual because that is my choice, but i do not look down on any one who is. It is their choice and if it makes them happy then fine. Love is love.
I just search statistics for homophobic comments, and found this website. I’m just going to say 2 things about comments
a)John is an incredibly mean person for judging people for their sexual orientation, especially on a website where people who are gay leave comments and read previous ones. If he (though he may not even be a he) really, truely feels that way about people who are doing nothing what so ever wrong, then I’n sorry, but I must assume that he is gay, and homophobic, to be so rude. Just like in American Beauty!
b) Oh my GOD! I dislike incredibly strongly religious people who say that a non-existant god disagrees with people being gay. Excuse me, idiots, but doesn’t your religion say that god made people? Why would he hate the differences that he put there?
Well my brother is gay and i look up to him like a hero!
Being gay is not a decision, its who some of us are.
People who think being gay is a decision are just people with one view, their view.
It’s right to be gay if thats who you are!
Listen up everyone.. Being gay is NOT a choice. I didn’t choose to be Bi-sexual at all.. Why would you choose to be a certain way?! I mean.. really.. There is NOTHING wrong with gay people at all in my eye’s and I think loves everyone equally so whyyall being **** over it? I think straight ppl are boring anywayz. There is nothing wrong with me or anyone else who is gay…. At the end of the day, everyone is still the same, and is a person no matta what! That’s what I think.. SO **** YALL HATAS! It isn’t scaring me out of my sexual orientation. I like being Bi. It’s more fun than being straight anyways.
I’m not scared of being who I am, and to people out there that aren’t coming out, Don’t be scared, I USE to, until I learned to love myself for who I was, and for not who people wanted me to be 
why is everyoe talking about religion?…the bible says EVERYTHING is a sin and it says we should kill women an childeren for doing the RIGHT thing ;
If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy’s genitals, her hand shall be cut off and no pity shall be shown her. Deuteronomy 25:11-12
I 4 1 am a 17 year old bicurious girl. I have kissed a gurl, but have never actually had a relationship with one. I do however dream about being with my “girl” friends. Ive told them i liked them n they have no problem with. 2 answer the question though, l dont think kissing a gurl makes her gay or bisexual or a lesbion.
Being GAY, STRAIGHT, LESBIAN,TRANSGENDER…. ARE ALL GREAT!!! I am 1 21yr. old lesbian. I find it very PITIFUL of people to be CLOSE-MINDED!!! I say live your life and dont worry about what the next has going on in their’s……. *****PRIDE ALL DAY LONG!!!!!****
i am a full-on gay boy who love being gay and if i am going to hell then let it be.i don’t think god won’t you antigay’s juge us because of who we are or what we do but how we cause the pain to others
I have a question. Why is it whenever someone quotes the bible about how terrible it is to be gay or lesbian, they’re always quoting the old testement? Update, what was Jesus’s take on the situation? Another question…Who wrote the bible? Men…God may have had input, but essentially men wrote the bible.
People keep going on and on about ‘God doesn’t like this’, ‘God says this is a sin’, ‘God will punish you for that’… It makes me kind of scared… i don’t think i like your god very much (and i feel the same about the god of the muslims, etc)… i think i believe in a god that looks on creation the way a loving parent looks on their children – with unconditional love and total acceptance – and who celebrates everything we do with love in our hearts.
And trust me, even if you say that YOUR god will punish me, MY god won’t let it happen
Peace and love!
okay so first off im a 18 yr old BI-SEXUAL female and if anyone has a problem with that last time i checked im not here to please you… second of all what does religion have to do with this anyway…. to answer the question no kissing anther girl dosent make you a lesbian or bi for that matter…. and for those of you who think im going to hell for being bi i probably am but last time i checked they dont have soccer there so i wont be going and if i do i’ll be seeing you there
ummm, to answer ther question that was posed, it also involves whether or not you want to repeat it, sexual feelings etc.
and for all the christians on this thing giving us a bad name, GROW UP. The bible wrote this all in the Old Testament, and the vast majority of it was to prevent illness, aids and the like.
God says we should love each other equally, does he not?
Then it is not for us humans to judge is it, for on judgement day he shall see our sins, and all he asks is that we turn to him,
and he will nurture and care for us forever.
There is no hell, as such, only a place without God. God only asks us to accept him, and we may take our seat in heaven, got it?
so homosexuals and bisexuals are not going to hell. I’m fairly sure that all most of us ever strive for is absolution. More so then many heterosexuals, who quite possibly commit more sins than us, especially in regards to discrimination.
Second Commandment: Love Thy Neighbour.
I for one think the people who think gay or lesbian people r wrong should step into there shoes n see what its like…..every one is the same no matter what…..n i for one am bi cause i dont care about gender or what other people have to say……if they band gay marrige i will still fight..cause im a proud girlfriend n wont ever change that n nobody should……=)
god created love right? so if two people find that love / connection that is so rare – should they fight it? NO. celebrate it no matter what the sex of the person’s are.
i recently experimented with another girl. No guy has ever made me feel like that. Now i can’t stop thinking about her. we live at opposite sides of the world. I never knew love could hurt this much!
OK, so I’m a strait guy, and recently at church we had a group discussion about wethor or not homosexuals should be accepted in church/can be christian.
And what is your perspective on hermaphrodites? (talking to people who think homosexuality is a sin, etc.) Are they only allowed to love other hermaphrodites, or are they allowed to choose? What if their parents made them one gender with surgery and their personalities and souls, sexuality, etc. makes them the other gender?
What I got out of that was that half the people (literally) in my youth group didn’t think so, and niether did my minister. BUT, reading this I see a lot of points I should have made (since I didn’t speak at all because I was having a bad week, and wasn’t paying too much attention).
like 1) God loves us all unconditionally and the new convanent (jesus dieing for us on the cross) requires us only to believe in him and love him(god). So, sin is sin, no sin is worse than another, and no matter how many times we repeat or believe it’s right or wrong, we are fogivin and we may take our seat in heaven if we wish. 2) I don’t believe that homosxuality is a sin. If it was God wouldn’t have put those feelings into the persons in question. And if you believe it’s because of homelife or what ever, God wouldn’t have let that specific soul grow up in that environment. God is all knowing and all loving. So, even if I am wrong and it is a sin, it’s really not your place as human beings to correct me. Or anyone else.
3) The bible was written by man. God had some part, yes, but the WRITERS were men. And just look at the culture. They STILL burry homosexuals and cut off the fingers of people caught with nailpolish on.
And Christianity accepts all people, no matter of race, gender, or SEXUALITY. So as Christians we should accept everyone as is. If they want to change then we support them. But damning someone based on our own interpretations is wrong. And damning isn’t our place anyway.
And if anyone is wondering why I’m posting on here, I was bored and started looking for ways that my friend can come out to her parents. xD seriously.
love is love, no matter the gender, race, age, or sexuality. God made it so that we could love, and love we shall. Whether or not it’s what you prefer doesn’t matter. I’m a happy heterosexual, but I’ll stand with the homosexuals and the Bi’s before I put them down and say that they are wrong for wanting the persecution to end.
ima qirll && i always looked aht qirlls the samee way i looked aht boyss every since i was lil && now that i been with chicks i knoow for ahh fact i like em both and theres nuthinn fuccin wrongg with dhat love has no gender i love chicks && guyss cant help iht girls are fuccin sexii i love emm ;]
THE QUESTION: If a girl kisses another girl does that means she’s lesbian or bi?
THE ANSWER: Today, girls see women kissing other women virtually everywhere in the media. It’s in magazines, it’s on television, and it’s rampant on college campuses and in clubs. It’s no wonder many girls feel pressure to kiss other girls, whether they are bisexual/lesbian or not.
Imagine two women kissing in a movie. Both are actresses. The act of kissing makes neither of these women inherently lesbian. They are being paid to portray a story. By this rationale, it is not the physical act of kissing that makes a woman a lesbian, but rather the emotional stimulus/response behind the kiss itself. Kissing without a psychological/physiological reaction catalyzed by intimate interaction between two same-sex individuals is just two pairs of lips touching, nothing more.
PS–I couldn’t help but laugh at the ignorance and obtuseness of poster number 14. When was the last time “God” destroyed a city because of homosexuality? Get your bratty little presumptuous nose out of your antiquated book, wake up, and smell the proverbial roses. Being gay is ok, and it’s not for you to decide someone’s sexual orientation other than your own.
I am a devout Christian, and still believe that you can come into heaven if you are gay. It is possible that it is even genetic. If it were a sin, it would be like any other sin: happens 20 times a day, and GOD FORGIVES YOU.
Hey, im bi n i hate ppl hu sai that dey hate ppl lyk me. Its reali my choice if i want to be me. No-one can change how i feel and what i do with my life. Its my life and ill live it the way i want to, my choice. Ive been out with several guys and girls and i reali love them both. Its reali my choice what i do with my life. I hate jesus christ and he should stay in heaven with all the ppl who are believing a complete lie. Dey whould be hung, cause i hate all ppl who always preach *** all the time, i hope they die!!!
I come from a christian family and brought up in a christian church and ive always hated it. Im enjoying my life the way it is and thats how it will stay, no-one can change my life……
Becy=]
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