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Question of the Week: If a Girl Kisses Another Girl Does That Means She's Lesbian or Bi?

By September 21, 2007

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If a girl kisses another girl does that means she's lesbian or bi?


A lot of teens experiment with same gender experiences. Sometimes this means that the teen is gay, lesbian or bisexual. But sometimes it doesn't.

Some teens choose to call themselves "bi-curious." It is also perfectly normal for a teen to question his or her sexual orientation.

Sexual activity is often an indication of a person's sexual orientation, but it doesn't have to be. The only real way to know if some one is gay, lesbian or bisexual is if they tell you!

September 27, 2008 at 10:50 am
(1) Ashley says:


October 20, 2008 at 6:34 pm
(2) John says:

yes. being gay is wrong

October 21, 2008 at 6:29 pm
(3) Tear says:

Being Gay is not bad, im sickened by all of the close minded people

October 26, 2008 at 12:31 pm
(4) Bee says:

being gay is most deffiantly not wrong
It’s something you can’t choose or stop
but I take it as a gift & an honor because not every
one can handle it.I believe every one that’s gay
is special in God’s eyes beacause He only picks
the strong ones that he know can handle it.

November 30, 2008 at 10:16 am
(5) Derin says:

About what Bee said, I’m 16 and my parents are hardcore catholics that hate homo-sexuals, so when my friends accidentally let slip that I was gay over this summer, my life was hell and kind of still is, I have to lie a lot and lie about where I go and what I’m doing, its weird, my parents will actaully let me go over to a guys house but not a girl.

I think about God, and I wonder if I’m here to show God if my parents can love me as I am, so far they haven’t. My parents think they’re open minded and good, but the way they indirectly hate me hurts a lot

December 3, 2008 at 12:28 am
(6) k says:

actually Bee, allowing ur fleshly temptations to OVERPOWER you is a weakness. at least trying to practice the right thing and conquering the temptation is a sign of strength… God said if u deny him, so shall he deny you in heaven. yeh no one really knows what happens to us after death, but u still wanna be ready juss in case. thatz a big risk. itz unknown. if u kno something is not right and itz obvious that it juss does not GO [lol], y r people always tryin to change up something and fukk up the way life is supposed to be thatz why the world is the way it is. earth was meant to b a pure place until so much filth went on… people have no respect or appreciation… they juss live and think they run the universe. people are in for a rude awakening after they die. and God’s juss sitting back waiting… while they think they doing somethin…

December 8, 2008 at 5:20 pm
(7) Stephanie says:

K, do you really think that God would approve of your judging? Isn’t there a bible verse that reads, “Judge not, that ye be not judge.”

I’m sure you will see the wrath of God when you arrive in Heaven as well. (If that is even where you are headed.) Live and let be!

Also, you need to learn how to spell and type properly.

December 9, 2008 at 6:23 pm
(8) Angel says:

i think im bi because i’ve had crushes and i’ve had sexual activites with them. I liked it but never had a real relationship…I’ve done it twice but with the same girl. It always runs through my mind if i am or not. Part of me says “FOR **** SURE I AM.” but then the other side of me says, “maybe…your going through a stage or your just trying to fit in with everyone else.” I’m too shy to ask a girl out even if i really like them. HHHEEELLLPPP

December 10, 2008 at 4:07 pm
(9) Angela says:

If you really think God is going to be waiting for you in heaven when you die and turn you away because you are gay then you are completely idiotic. I wouldn’t even want to enter a heaven were gays and lesbians were not allowed in. I would rather go to hell.

And resisting temptation? please go see the movie “but I’m a cheerleader” because it shows how full of **** opinions like that are. But I defend your right to think what you wish just don’t go spreading your work like a morman missionary.

December 23, 2008 at 11:20 pm
(10) a says:

i am a bi teen and i think in no way is it wrong to be gay. people qwho judge us odn’t understand what we’re going through and if we choose to be gay, it’s our chocie and no one else’s. like what stephanie said “Judge not, that ye be not judge.”

December 30, 2008 at 11:33 am
(11) lol says:


December 30, 2008 at 3:17 pm
(12) jenn says:

Yea; im bi.
theres nothing wrong with
it. at first i was confuesd
and now im with girls.and guys.
im enjoying life:]

January 3, 2009 at 1:55 pm
(13) Boo says:

I’m gay. My partner and i played with each other before. It’s not wrong/

January 3, 2009 at 2:44 pm
(14) B says:

God destroyed the city of Sodom and Gommorah because of Homosexuality.WAKE UP!

January 3, 2009 at 7:24 pm
(15) Boz says:

This is ridiculous!
The question was whether or not a girl kissing a girl made her gay/bi, and NOT whether or not homosexuality/bisexuality is right or wrong. Can we leave religious/social beliefs out of this and stick to the real issue, please?

However, for the record, I believe being gay/bi is perfectly natural and valid and we should all be who we are and let each other get on with it.

In answer to the question, I’m a straight woman (though occasionally a little bi-curious) and I have kissed girls in the past. I admit as a teenager I questioned my sexuality sometimes, but kissing girls did not alter my sexuality one bit – deep down I have always known what/who I am. Kissing girls was okay, but not as fun as kissing guys.

There is no one answer to this question – only the individual girl will know how she feels and what she is.

January 24, 2009 at 7:16 pm
(16) denim says:

To everyone who mentions the biblical STORY, of sodom and gomarr…watever. i did some reasearch and here are some other things your precious bible says

If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately. Deuteronomy 22:13-21

If a married person has sex with someone else’s husband or wife, the Bible commands that both adulterers be stoned to death. Deuteronomy 22:22

Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced. Mark 10:1-12

The Bible forbids a married couple from having sexual intercourse during a woman’s period. If they disobey, both shall be executed.Leviticus 18:19

If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir. Mark 12:18-27

If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy’s genitals, her hand shall be cut off and no pity shall be shown her. Deuteronomy 25:11-12

January 26, 2009 at 10:40 pm
(17) kristin says:

You guys shouldnt be sitting here talking about whether or not its right to be straight/bi/lesbian/gay. Does it really matter? They are people its their choice not yours. If you wanna judge someone by that you need to rot in hell because thats being judgemental. Im straight and i have many lesibian gay and bi friends and i look at them no differently.

February 2, 2009 at 12:07 am
(18) Derrick says:

homosexuality is a sin. God still loves them but they cant enter the kingdom of heaven. another thing. when we christians tell people that are practicing homosexuals that they cant enter the kingdom of God, we arent judging them. we are passing on the warning from the only one that can judge them that what they are doing is going to land them in the lake of fire for all eternity.

February 5, 2009 at 6:02 am
(19) B says:

Religion is a crock… Welcome to the 21st century.

February 5, 2009 at 9:34 pm
(20) Krizzle says:

I’m gonna be straight honest. yes being homosexual is a sin i Gods eyes. BUT so is being judegmental and curseing and thinkning dirty thoughts and drinking and smoking and sex and all these other things. No sin is worse then another. And as christians we are to wrap our arms around any one who is hurting and confised. Accept them for who they are. I am not homosexual because that is my choice, but i do not look down on any one who is. It is their choice and if it makes them happy then fine. Love is love.

February 10, 2009 at 8:45 pm
(21) ATHEIST says:

I just search statistics for homophobic comments, and found this website. I’m just going to say 2 things about comments
a)John is an incredibly mean person for judging people for their sexual orientation, especially on a website where people who are gay leave comments and read previous ones. If he (though he may not even be a he) really, truely feels that way about people who are doing nothing what so ever wrong, then I’n sorry, but I must assume that he is gay, and homophobic, to be so rude. Just like in American Beauty!
b) Oh my GOD! I dislike incredibly strongly religious people who say that a non-existant god disagrees with people being gay. Excuse me, idiots, but doesn’t your religion say that god made people? Why would he hate the differences that he put there?

February 21, 2009 at 8:21 pm
(22) john says:

Well my brother is gay and i look up to him like a hero!
Being gay is not a decision, its who some of us are.
People who think being gay is a decision are just people with one view, their view.
It’s right to be gay if thats who you are!

February 27, 2009 at 10:35 am
(23) Kayla says:

Listen up everyone.. Being gay is NOT a choice. I didn’t choose to be Bi-sexual at all.. Why would you choose to be a certain way?! I mean.. really.. There is NOTHING wrong with gay people at all in my eye’s and I think loves everyone equally so whyyall being **** over it? I think straight ppl are boring anywayz. There is nothing wrong with me or anyone else who is gay…. At the end of the day, everyone is still the same, and is a person no matta what! That’s what I think.. SO **** YALL HATAS! It isn’t scaring me out of my sexual orientation. I like being Bi. It’s more fun than being straight anyways. :) I’m not scared of being who I am, and to people out there that aren’t coming out, Don’t be scared, I USE to, until I learned to love myself for who I was, and for not who people wanted me to be :)

March 4, 2009 at 4:52 pm
(24) BiAthiest says:

why is everyoe talking about religion?…the bible says EVERYTHING is a sin and it says we should kill women an childeren for doing the RIGHT thing ;

If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy’s genitals, her hand shall be cut off and no pity shall be shown her. Deuteronomy 25:11-12

March 9, 2009 at 9:28 am
(25) staarrr says:

I 4 1 am a 17 year old bicurious girl. I have kissed a gurl, but have never actually had a relationship with one. I do however dream about being with my “girl” friends. Ive told them i liked them n they have no problem with. 2 answer the question though, l dont think kissing a gurl makes her gay or bisexual or a lesbion.

March 12, 2009 at 3:20 pm
(26) shakera says:

Being GAY, STRAIGHT, LESBIAN,TRANSGENDER…. ARE ALL GREAT!!! I am 1 21yr. old lesbian. I find it very PITIFUL of people to be CLOSE-MINDED!!! I say live your life and dont worry about what the next has going on in their’s……. *****PRIDE ALL DAY LONG!!!!!****

March 12, 2009 at 7:51 pm
(27) damon says:

i am a full-on gay boy who love being gay and if i am going to hell then let it be.i don’t think god won’t you antigay’s juge us because of who we are or what we do but how we cause the pain to others

March 23, 2009 at 7:34 pm
(28) dvaux says:

I have a question. Why is it whenever someone quotes the bible about how terrible it is to be gay or lesbian, they’re always quoting the old testement? Update, what was Jesus’s take on the situation? Another question…Who wrote the bible? Men…God may have had input, but essentially men wrote the bible.

March 28, 2009 at 10:57 am
(29) John says:

People keep going on and on about ‘God doesn’t like this’, ‘God says this is a sin’, ‘God will punish you for that’… It makes me kind of scared… i don’t think i like your god very much (and i feel the same about the god of the muslims, etc)… i think i believe in a god that looks on creation the way a loving parent looks on their children – with unconditional love and total acceptance – and who celebrates everything we do with love in our hearts.
And trust me, even if you say that YOUR god will punish me, MY god won’t let it happen :)
Peace and love!

March 30, 2009 at 9:59 pm
(30) danni says:

okay so first off im a 18 yr old BI-SEXUAL female and if anyone has a problem with that last time i checked im not here to please you… second of all what does religion have to do with this anyway…. to answer the question no kissing anther girl dosent make you a lesbian or bi for that matter…. and for those of you who think im going to hell for being bi i probably am but last time i checked they dont have soccer there so i wont be going and if i do i’ll be seeing you there

March 31, 2009 at 4:02 am
(31) Catholic and Bi?! zomg yessums. says:

ummm, to answer ther question that was posed, it also involves whether or not you want to repeat it, sexual feelings etc.

and for all the christians on this thing giving us a bad name, GROW UP. The bible wrote this all in the Old Testament, and the vast majority of it was to prevent illness, aids and the like.

God says we should love each other equally, does he not?
Then it is not for us humans to judge is it, for on judgement day he shall see our sins, and all he asks is that we turn to him,
and he will nurture and care for us forever.

There is no hell, as such, only a place without God. God only asks us to accept him, and we may take our seat in heaven, got it?

so homosexuals and bisexuals are not going to hell. I’m fairly sure that all most of us ever strive for is absolution. More so then many heterosexuals, who quite possibly commit more sins than us, especially in regards to discrimination.

Second Commandment: Love Thy Neighbour.

March 31, 2009 at 10:34 pm
(32) cassie says:

I for one think the people who think gay or lesbian people r wrong should step into there shoes n see what its like…..every one is the same no matter what…..n i for one am bi cause i dont care about gender or what other people have to say……if they band gay marrige i will still fight..cause im a proud girlfriend n wont ever change that n nobody should……=)

April 7, 2009 at 6:07 am
(33) confused says:

god created love right? so if two people find that love / connection that is so rare – should they fight it? NO. celebrate it no matter what the sex of the person’s are.
i recently experimented with another girl. No guy has ever made me feel like that. Now i can’t stop thinking about her. we live at opposite sides of the world. I never knew love could hurt this much!

April 25, 2009 at 6:36 pm
(34) Aubrey says:

OK, so I’m a strait guy, and recently at church we had a group discussion about wethor or not homosexuals should be accepted in church/can be christian.
What I got out of that was that half the people (literally) in my youth group didn’t think so, and niether did my minister. BUT, reading this I see a lot of points I should have made (since I didn’t speak at all because I was having a bad week, and wasn’t paying too much attention).
like 1) God loves us all unconditionally and the new convanent (jesus dieing for us on the cross) requires us only to believe in him and love him(god). So, sin is sin, no sin is worse than another, and no matter how many times we repeat or believe it’s right or wrong, we are fogivin and we may take our seat in heaven if we wish. 2) I don’t believe that homosxuality is a sin. If it was God wouldn’t have put those feelings into the persons in question. And if you believe it’s because of homelife or what ever, God wouldn’t have let that specific soul grow up in that environment. God is all knowing and all loving. So, even if I am wrong and it is a sin, it’s really not your place as human beings to correct me. Or anyone else. :D And what is your perspective on hermaphrodites? (talking to people who think homosexuality is a sin, etc.) Are they only allowed to love other hermaphrodites, or are they allowed to choose? What if their parents made them one gender with surgery and their personalities and souls, sexuality, etc. makes them the other gender?
3) The bible was written by man. God had some part, yes, but the WRITERS were men. And just look at the culture. They STILL burry homosexuals and cut off the fingers of people caught with nailpolish on.

And Christianity accepts all people, no matter of race, gender, or SEXUALITY. So as Christians we should accept everyone as is. If they want to change then we support them. But damning someone based on our own interpretations is wrong. And damning isn’t our place anyway.

And if anyone is wondering why I’m posting on here, I was bored and started looking for ways that my friend can come out to her parents. xD seriously.

love is love, no matter the gender, race, age, or sexuality. God made it so that we could love, and love we shall. Whether or not it’s what you prefer doesn’t matter. I’m a happy heterosexual, but I’ll stand with the homosexuals and the Bi’s before I put them down and say that they are wrong for wanting the persecution to end.

May 13, 2009 at 9:25 pm
(35) LyDia BaYbiiEe =) says:

ima qirll && i always looked aht qirlls the samee way i looked aht boyss every since i was lil && now that i been with chicks i knoow for ahh fact i like em both and theres nuthinn fuccin wrongg with dhat love has no gender i love chicks && guyss cant help iht girls are fuccin sexii i love emm ;]

June 2, 2009 at 4:14 am
(36) Professor Emo says:

THE QUESTION: If a girl kisses another girl does that means she’s lesbian or bi?

THE ANSWER: Today, girls see women kissing other women virtually everywhere in the media. It’s in magazines, it’s on television, and it’s rampant on college campuses and in clubs. It’s no wonder many girls feel pressure to kiss other girls, whether they are bisexual/lesbian or not.

Imagine two women kissing in a movie. Both are actresses. The act of kissing makes neither of these women inherently lesbian. They are being paid to portray a story. By this rationale, it is not the physical act of kissing that makes a woman a lesbian, but rather the emotional stimulus/response behind the kiss itself. Kissing without a psychological/physiological reaction catalyzed by intimate interaction between two same-sex individuals is just two pairs of lips touching, nothing more.

PS–I couldn’t help but laugh at the ignorance and obtuseness of poster number 14. When was the last time “God” destroyed a city because of homosexuality? Get your bratty little presumptuous nose out of your antiquated book, wake up, and smell the proverbial roses. Being gay is ok, and it’s not for you to decide someone’s sexual orientation other than your own.

June 8, 2009 at 11:44 pm
(37) L says:

I am a devout Christian, and still believe that you can come into heaven if you are gay. It is possible that it is even genetic. If it were a sin, it would be like any other sin: happens 20 times a day, and GOD FORGIVES YOU.

June 29, 2009 at 8:37 am
(38) BecyButtonHead.....BI =] says:

Hey, im bi n i hate ppl hu sai that dey hate ppl lyk me. Its reali my choice if i want to be me. No-one can change how i feel and what i do with my life. Its my life and ill live it the way i want to, my choice. Ive been out with several guys and girls and i reali love them both. Its reali my choice what i do with my life. I hate jesus christ and he should stay in heaven with all the ppl who are believing a complete lie. Dey whould be hung, cause i hate all ppl who always preach *** all the time, i hope they die!!!
I come from a christian family and brought up in a christian church and ive always hated it. Im enjoying my life the way it is and thats how it will stay, no-one can change my life……

July 14, 2009 at 12:44 am
(39) Jeremy says:

OMG at the person above me. Did you honeslty just say that Hitler was amazing? Yes he did do some good things for the Germans, I’ll admit it. But he sprayed prejudice and racism towards everything that was outside of the norm. When you organize a group of people to kill and separate Jews, homosexuals, the elderly, etc. I highly doubt anyone can truly find that person amazing.

Anyway, back to the question. NO IT DOESN’T.

Now to the Christianity thing. Personally, I think that it shouldn’t be a sin to be LGBT because I don’t think that God would make someone that way if he didn’t want that to happen in the world. I believe that it’s completely fine to be LGBT. I personally am Buddhsit and believe that as long as you do good in your life, you will go to a higher world. I used to be Atheist (just FYI).

July 29, 2009 at 6:23 pm
(40) Rose says:


There is nothing, and I repeat, NOTHING wrong with being bi or gay! Anyone who disagrees should be shot in my opinion. It’s discrimination. Saying “I hate gays” is like saying “I hate black people”. It’s discrimination pure and simple.

August 8, 2009 at 8:24 pm
(41) Meg says:

If being gay was a choice, than everyone would be able to choose it and be happy in their romance that way.
It’s obvious that even if you homophobes were open to the idea, you wouldn’t do it. It just wouldn’t click for you.
Being gay is a choice, just like being a girl/guy is a choice, just like death is a choice, just like having your skin color is a choice… ect.

Leave your god and you bullshxt bible out of it.

September 22, 2009 at 4:49 pm
(42) Ashlee says:

im 15 and confused
ima girl and have a bf but i have a crush on some of my friends (also girls) ive always been a tomboy if that makes any difference. but i really like them i have feelings for them and dreams..wat does this mean if anything. part of me is saying yes just imbrace it ur already a freak as it is and the other is saying talk and die..its led me too isolation and self harm among other wrong things

October 2, 2009 at 1:57 pm
(43) Lily says:

QUESTION: If a girl kisses another girl does that means she’s lesbian or bi?

ANSWER: No, it doesn’t mean that you’re lesbian or bisexual. There could be a possibility but it might just be a ‘phase’ or you might just not be being satisfied by the opposite sex and want more and to experiment and that’s okay, it truly is.

I’m a 14 year old, female and I’m a lesbian. Although, occassionally I’ll make acceptions to have sexual acitivities with the male sex. But mainly, I enjoy the company of the female sex and I enjoy the thrill of being with a girl, I enjoy the difference, I enjoy the risk, I enjoy everything about it. I’m currently in a stable, committed relationship with a female who I’m in love with and you may say that I’m too young to know I’m a lesbian or in love, but no, I’m not. I’ve always had this attraction to the female gender, not by choice, I just feel this way. Personally, I don’t believe in God. I might do when I’m older. I go to a Christian boarding school and we’re being slightly provoked and persuaded to believe in God and be Christian. Also, another thing, if we lesbian, bisexual people can’t be accepted into the Christian belief, then why do some people come around to our doors and try to convert us to Christianity, never knowing if we’re criminals, homosexuals, of an other religion. It’s a waste of our time and yours. If you think ‘gays’ are so wrong, then quit coming on this website and giving your rudiculous opinions, it’s not needed, we are who we are and there’s nothing else to it. I’m proud of who I am and I’d never change, not for anyone.

October 6, 2009 at 4:03 pm
(44) Heavenly Minded says:

I believe that we as people can and heave the right to choose what is wrong and what is right. We can talk about this all day long But what will stand and only stand is what God say’s about every thing we as people do. I don’t judge anyone for the decisions THAT ANYONE makes But we really have to be careful we have to know God and then as well we have to know the Devil. God will never go against his word on the other hand the Devil
will make a person believe that God is doing something or simply saying something when actually he is not .God will never speak something and then go against what he said. The Devil does that.

October 14, 2009 at 11:16 pm
(45) Kay says:

Bee your in denile if theirs a god he hate homosexual, but their not so don’t worry about it. If you think you could be gay then you are. It’s not a choice. So for all the people who say it’s a choice, then yeah your gay. Cause if you could have sex with the same sex then your gay. It’s sad that guys have to go through more stigma but i think it’s hot. Do you and forget what people say.

October 15, 2009 at 12:03 am
(46) Kay says:

And to all talking so much about god. God said this God said that. God said to kill atheist and homosexual. He also said dont eat shellfish, along with alot of other stuff all ya’ll do. And which god cause it depends on what religon you ask. I don’t need to disprove something that can’t be proved. Like unicorns, leprechauns, santa, the easter bunny how can you prove their not real, why not praise them. HA so sad yet funny.

October 27, 2009 at 7:57 am
(47) m.j.e.j.w.d says:

being gay is not pleasing to god. but wat decisions u make is up to u. i love gays i have no problem with gays.but i LOVE guys

November 4, 2009 at 12:10 am
(48) RC says:

i’m a little confused on this GLBT stuff but this is what I have worked out for myself so far:
I subscribe to the theory that everyone has a soulmate/true love/etc, so the reason some people are gay/lesbian is that their soulmate happens to be the same sex as themselves.
This is a pretty incomplete theory as there are also bisexual people, of which I think I am one. If anyone can fill in that part of it along the same line of reasoning, feel free to speak up, please!

November 4, 2009 at 4:50 am
(49) karen says:

id rather be happy than right anyday

December 16, 2009 at 1:27 pm
(50) jessica says:

ashley it means you may be interested in a girl and dont be asheamed of it

December 18, 2009 at 12:23 am
(51) Matt says:

I’m an atheist bisexual. It’s awesome. It is strange though, people are always trying to get you to think that both of these are a phase. Atheism supposedly just goes away on your death bed, when you pray to some god at the last minute out of fear. Bisexuality is supposedly just a cowardly gay person who won’t come out of the closet. Yeah, like any same sex activity was okay, like being bi isn’t just as bad in others’ eyes than being gay. Anyway, I love you all who aren’t being haters.

December 28, 2009 at 5:31 am
(52) kat says:

im a christian and to all the other christians who say homosexuality is a sin u guys are full of s***. im not religious and im bi i think, but god so called created us and so if homosexuality was a sin why did he make people homosexual also being gay or les or bi isnt a choice its who you are u dotn conrol who u are attracted to u control whether u listen to ur feelings or not.

December 28, 2009 at 5:40 am
(53) kat says:

im christian and i think all this stuff about homosexuality being a sin is a load of S***. If it was a sin then the so called god that so called made th earth an humans wouldnt have made people gay lesbian or bi and im not very christian but i do belive that if there was a god he wouldnt want anyone to be judgemental or against his creations and if it were a sin to be who you are he wouldnt have made you like that.
also im confused i dotn know if im bi or lesbian? i know im not straight because i have a gf and i just feel sexually attracted to girls, but i dont know how i feel about guys i have a few good guy friends and i love them emotionally as friends but i dont feel anything sexual towards any guys

December 29, 2009 at 2:51 pm
(54) cloe says:

I think that every close minded person should just keep their opinions to themselves and their idiot buddies. They say all that stuff about god anad how being gay is a sin, but what proof do they have that god even exists,all they have is an ancient book that probably has been changed several times. I for one think that gay, lesbian, and bisexual people are awesome! People who dont like us are just afraid of change and of great people.

December 29, 2009 at 4:32 pm
(55) Anthony says:

I am 16, and i’m a male. At the moment, I consider myself bicurious and nothing more, but i think i may possibly be bisexual. I want to have a sexual experience with a female and a male, before i make up my mind, but i want to start with a girl because I know I am attracted (both emotionally and sexually) to females. Ideally, I would like to have an experience with a male in a similar situation to mine, by that i mean he is confused and would like to expiriment. So far, I have only been sexually attracted to males, like i have fantasized about sex with another guy, but never was emotionally or sexually attracted to a specific male that i know personally, like I mean i’ve never had a crush on a guy. I have experimented with anal masturbation, and also watch gay porn sometimes, but i prefer to watch lesbian porn. I rarely (almost never) watch straight porn. Like I said, i want to have an intimate experience with a girl before i have one with a guy, simply because I am confident in my attraction to females, but at some point in my life, i hope to have a same sex sexual experience. To answer the question, I do not believe kissing a girl would make you a lesbian, because if I do have a sexual experience with another male and find that I am not interested in a same sex relationship, I would not consider myself gay or bisexual. Also, if anyone has advice for me, that would be really great because I am confused.

January 3, 2010 at 10:49 pm
(56) peter adgjmptw says:

i love lesbian porn and i watch it all the time i am also very horny i dont know what to do.

January 13, 2010 at 12:34 am
(57) John G says:

my girlfriend hook up with a girl before, i believe it was a french kiss, i was really mad when she told me but i also wanna find out if shes attracted to the same sex because shes always telling girls how beautiful they are on their facebook pictures and also how shes always inviting girls to sleep over.

January 23, 2010 at 10:36 pm
(58) Shane says:

Everyone that is interested in learning about Homosexual feelings here is a video that really helped me out:

February 1, 2010 at 6:35 pm
(59) ANGEL x3 says:

Hello . I’m 13 and im bi ..and i hate people who are so aganist us gays . Look we born this way and instead of judging us u should help us be glad of the people we are . & for the people who say god wont accept you your wrong okay so leave us alone .. god created us right? so then he wanted me & everyone who is gay to be this way SO STOP JUDGING US !

February 1, 2010 at 6:38 pm
(60) ANGEL x3 says:

Oh and i almost forgot .. if your confused about being gay Just find some one to talk to && u will be okay

February 14, 2010 at 3:40 am
(61) Locke says:

Who honestly gives a crap if your gay or not if u say it’s wrong on some random website ur obviously seeking attention I’m
not all for the gay lesbian bi thing but who cares just let them be happy and for another thing if we were sent into a lake of fire for every time we sinned no one would be in heaven so why if there gay and break one sin would they go to hell for one sin

February 15, 2010 at 11:32 pm
(62) Jesse♥ says:

If I liked kissing and touching my girl and enjoyed her touching me back then… I must be lesbo. Im not excited by my man at all anymore…

February 20, 2010 at 11:28 am
(63) SnookeRage says:

Im a buddhist and we accept sexual minorities as we think that judging is conceit and love is a form of compassion. Hatred is a sin. Being gay is NOT wrong, whats your problem! If you narrow-minded people think that this is wrong… WHY are you here??
BTW, the bible is NOT written by god.. sadly,its by MAN! How do you know that homosexuals can’t go to heaven? Did you come face to face with god and ask him?

February 27, 2010 at 6:39 pm
(64) tans says:

stop arguing whether god will accept gays. there is no god.
it’s just made up to keep the cattle in line.

March 22, 2010 at 9:39 pm
(65) Ally says:

People sin every second of everyday so the whole religious thing should stop. If that was the case then little kids would be looked down upon.
I’m a bi 15 year old and I’m a christian. I know what is says but being a homosexual is not a choice really. its a feeling that you may or may not act on. People have their opinions and freedom of speech obviously so theres nothing left to actually say. No one is going to stop being who they are because of what someone said either if they are a strong willed person. At first I was a little scared because I wasnt sure about who I was but I love being bi. I’m not an outcast and im very open about it. There is nothing wrong with it really.

March 30, 2010 at 9:03 am
(66) Erin says:

I just have to say… there IS NO CHOICE AS TO WHO YOU ARE! I married my best friend, because I did not want to give in to being a lesbian… Well guess what, after 3 years I am now cliniclly depressed, on tons of antidepressents and am seeking counceling. I even tried what the Christians say.. READ THE BIBLE! I did, and it was no help whatsoever. I have even pondered suicide, but that is a sin too. I am very religious, but you know, there is nothing to change who you are. Now, yes, I do love my husband, but it is not a love that is enough. I did not have children for this reason. You cannot deny who you are, because in the long run, it will kill you emotionally and eventually physically. I am now trying to find out who I am, and what I want. I am tired of having to please others, and deny my happiness.
Sorry, just needed to vent…

May 8, 2010 at 6:10 am
(67) Cregg Newman says:

Look the bible CLEARLY states that being gay is wrong. It’s a sin. I’m not a “fake” Christian. I just want all u guys to know it’s wrong, if u don’t wanna change fine, that’s up to u. I’m not flamming anybody, i’m just saying.

May 19, 2010 at 7:14 am
(68) My name is ME!!!!!! says:

Who are we to judge people because of who they like, what is this?High school?People do not choose to be gay, its caused by what knds of chemivals come over the womb,it is NOT a choice

May 28, 2010 at 10:46 am
(69) Victoria Louise Mary Whitfield says:

i dont think being gay or is a bad thing sometimes i do but i think its a blesing from god ,i am14 and in a relationship with another girl at the moment shes 13 but we love each other so dont be ashamed or think its bad to be gay!!! Tori.

May 31, 2010 at 10:28 pm
(70) Heather says:

I am an atheist bisexual. I am not ashamed of either, as for me neither are a choice and even if they were, I would choose them anyway. I really appreciate how most people on this forum are largely supportive, but I just wish that God and religion could be left out of it. It is irrelevant. I don’t give a damn about what some bronze-age bigoted men had to say about how I live my life.

Oh, and by the way, saying you’re Christian but that you pick and choose what parts of the Bible you follow is, though moral and correct, hypocritical.

June 8, 2010 at 7:27 pm
(71) Courtney says:

My best friend and I are very close… and I started to have feelings for her. I told her and she felt the same way, so we made out. I loved it. I’ve been straight my entire life, and now I’m in love with her and she is all who I want to be with.

June 8, 2010 at 7:34 pm
(72) Courtney says:

God wants us to be happy. If we can’t be with someone we love of the same sex, and we aren’t happy, then we have a horrible god. He should want us happy. Love shouldn’t be about being straight, lesbian, bi, or gay. Love should be about being with who we love. It shouldn’t have a gender.

June 14, 2010 at 4:53 am
(73) miss jay says:

I’m lyke really new et diis so all I gotta say iis iim bi and I don’t have a gurl/boy friend so if u wanna get et meh kall(901)65%4|4€…

June 15, 2010 at 11:13 pm
(74) H says:

Ok, I’m a girl into boys, but I don’t think it is wrong to be gay or lesbian, and people who think it is wrong to be gay or lesbian need a news flash, you probably lost all your friends because you are so judgmental, and just need to get a life. By the way you need to change with time. I doubt you even know what century this is.I wish people who stop being cruel everyone gets an equal chance right? And I know that everyone has a different view of life, and I was raised with loving and warmth around me and even a few lesbian and gay friends who by the way were the NICEST people to ever live. With all the cruelty in your heart, that’s the way life will be to you and that’s the energy you will get back.

Anyway to the question, i think it depends on the person

June 15, 2010 at 11:24 pm
(75) Cruelty is wrong says:

I am a girl into boys, but I don’t think there is ANYTHING wrong with being lesbian or gay, everyone has an opinion, but it just sickens me how people can be so cruel just based on what gender other people have a crush on. It’s just so sad how people can treat others with so much hate. This is the 21st century and we are acting like we are from many centuries ago. My know many people who like the same gender and if you would just let your heart open up you would see that lesbians and gays are people too. I know everyone has their own perspective of life and this is mine

June 23, 2010 at 7:46 am
(76) Lara says:

i’m a thirteen year old girl and i’m bisexual. I found out when i was 12 and a half, its a pretty young i guess but i don’t care. I am glad i found out i am then later on. And i can say, you do meet alot of other bi’s and lesbians and gays the more you accept it. I’ve only recentally started telling a few very close friends and none of them pushed me away which made me feel good which is gaining my confindence in it more now. I want to tell my parents but i’m afraid they’ll get really mad at me for it, i know its a big thing for them to adjust to but its hard. I respect others opinons on sexuality but i really wish the immature people who put bi’s/gay’s/lez down get a life, its not fair. we are all humans no matter about our sexuality. Get to know someone for them instead of judging them on their sexuality.

July 8, 2010 at 1:41 am
(77) Victoria says:

I’m 13 too I have kissed 2 girls, but I’m not sure if I am bi-sexual either. I got into a situation where I told this girl I liked her and she freaked out and never spoke to me again. Now her and I are friends, in the end to people it’s bad because of the way they were brought up I think. And they think it’s wrong too, my mom said being Bi-Sexual is have sex with boys and girls. To myself I though no. I looked it up later it said that being bi-sexual mean’t that you liked boys and girls, and having a relationship, or whatever with both genders. I want to find someone who I can talk to who is in my sit with my life. No one get’s you that’s why they judge. Hope I helped some

July 19, 2010 at 2:03 pm
(78) Miriam Pia says:

I feel that the people who dislike homosexuality and bisexuality should go away and leave the people who want to talk about it in peace alone.

I believe Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed because of sexual abuse that was rife in the culture which is not the same as true homosexuality or bisexuality. God destroyed a city full of rapists, basically was how I read that. Most heterosexuals, bisexuals and homosexuals are not rapists, but most also know the art of persuasion and seduction – when rife in a culture can certainly make matters worse than they would be otherwise.

August 2, 2010 at 5:43 pm
(79) unknown says:

i’m just trying to find out now if i am bi but i had my first kiss with a girl when i was 9

August 21, 2010 at 4:26 pm
(80) joey18 says:

On my own view, kissing a girl doesn’t make anybody lesbian nor bi..It’s just a simple kiss. Now how you feel after that kiss and what will you do about that feeling will definetely tell you what your sexual preferrence is.

August 23, 2010 at 11:39 pm
(81) Madeline says:

I’m just confused… I’m not sure whether I’m bi-curious or just plain bi… I’m worried, if i am, that my dad and sister will freak. (Especially my sister.) and my friends (if they ever found out.) I have certain feelings towards the same sex (females) as i would the opposite sex. idk!!!! HELP!!!

(Also, how old would one determine his or her sexual orientation? I’m in high school…)

August 25, 2010 at 12:13 am
(82) Jordan (Aksr) says:

I honestly don’t understand Christians. Not all Christians, but the narrow-minded, conservative ones. Really? Look over yourselves. Think of all the “sins” the Bible describes. How many of them do you commit everyday? I bet it’s a lot. Now think: will you be banished from “Heaven” because of these? Your answer I’m guessing will be no. Then why do you think homosexuality will automatically send you to Hell? This is why I’m not a Christian. You people follow a book written by people who knew so little 2 millennia ago. I believe in my own religion. There’s no such thing as “sin.” The gods created and rule the world exactly as they want it. If they wanted it differently, they’d change it. I’m going to say this: if your God is all powerful, can do anything, controls all, why does he not just reshape the world the way he wants it. So even if my religion is wrong (which unlike you Christians, I will admit) and there is only one God, he must want the world this way, otherwise he would change it. I can imagine right now you’re thinking “what about murder, thievery, etc., why would God/the gods want them?” My answer to this is that it’s the only way for everything else to fit in it’s place, much like a puzzle. Or I might say that my gods are imperfect, much like we describe ourselves, but the gods have shaped us after themselves, thus we are perfect. Each and every one of us is exactly the way we should be. I really hope that one day people will all become more open minded. I don’t care what religion they follow, so long as they leave others to be as they are. Like, if you noticed, unlike some of the people above me, I didn’t say I hate Christians, I just don’t understand them. I respect anybodies choice to do or be anything, so long as their beliefs don’t try to change who others are. I leave you with this last message: before you judge others, judge yourself. If you’re no better, say nothing. If you think you’re better, think again and keep your opinion to yourself.

Thanks for reading,

August 27, 2010 at 7:32 pm
(83) Gabbi says:

I am bi…..i never thought i would be but thereis only one girl i have ever loved before…..and there is nothing wrong with it if they love u and u love them aand u are happy then god will accept that he will not judge u

September 14, 2010 at 11:46 pm
(84) Laura says:

Ohk. So im a christian and im Bi. and i thnk dat ppl shuldnt be all closeminded! god accepts EVERYONE for who they are. wether thier an addict, or gblt. so all those ppl who r sayin god doesnt accept this and that are all rong! gods the one who made us who we are . so thats my opinion – L (email if any comments)

September 16, 2010 at 1:34 am
(85) Jessi says:

I think i am bi, and i dunno whut 2 do… i wanna tell ppl but if i tell the wrong person i could make myself look stupid…

September 17, 2010 at 9:33 pm
(86) ChasenCharran says:

Get on topic, people. I agree, the answer is no. and to everything else:

There’s nothing wrong with being GLBT. If you are, it’s just the way you’re born, you can’t change it. And the bible says nothing bad about homosexual relationships. It also says that god loves everyone equally, so should we, and that he is the only judge. Do you think God would make you to not be able to get into heaven? Your book even says that as long as you are forgiven, you can enter heaven! (And please clean up your grammar.)

October 9, 2010 at 5:22 am
(87) Puck says:

There’s three things I know above all else: I am christian, I’m a consrvative, and I’m a full-fledged lesbian. Every time I’ve tried to be in a romantic relationship with a man it either ended in disaster just felt . . . wrong. But when I think about being with this one girl I know (Who despite being angnostic is the kindest and most heaven-worthy person I know) I just think to myself: “Wow, how can that go wrong?” On topic, Christianinty’s main ideology is that of Jesus, who never said anything about the morality of homosexuality, but he did say love thy neibor. So I don’t know about you guys, but I don’t see any hypocrasy with those three things.

October 11, 2010 at 2:53 am
(88) ren says:

being gay is not a sin, like you’ll be punished from hell. don’t be afraid of coming out of the closet, as long as you’re happy and you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no problem. i’m a self-proclaimed bisexual.

October 16, 2010 at 2:56 am
(89) SavannahTheAtheist says:

I dont get why people are saying being gay is a sin. Im 13 and bi-curious and i gont get why these people who think were sinners are on this sight anyways? that is some serious hypocrasy. and ive been told that i will burn in hell because of my somewhat liking of girls and i told them that i will see them there :)

October 23, 2010 at 7:22 pm
(90) keepinitreal says:

This is not judging let me make that clear…I was once a lesbian…until I wanted to change I always knew it was wrong…I will not give a opinion str8 to the scriptures…romans 1:26&27 that is y God abandoned them to there shameful desires.Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex & instead indulged in sex with each other.And the man instead of having normal sexual relations with women burned with lust for each other .men did shameful things w/other men as a result of this sin they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved…

October 23, 2010 at 7:28 pm
(91) keepinitreal says:

Come on guys…if we read the scriptures that God gives us to grow….we will see very clearly that being gay being a murderer worshiping idols having sex and not married liars everything that contricts Gods teaching is not from God…that’s why he gave us a chose of life or death u choose…I love u all God bless

October 23, 2010 at 7:38 pm
(92) keepinitreal says:

Y is there so many people on here lying on God he wants us all to be right in his sight not our own….I think its funny that a lot of u r confused about what u r…God is not the author of confusion…satan is….let’s stop an really think how on earth if God said be fruitful and multiply if we r with the same sex how is that possible…stop being weak for the fleah…satan is real and alive and with all these people not really knowing what the word of God says because they don’t study the Holy Bible and only wants to give there thoughts and opinion is opening up room for satan to walk right in…I rebuke that…

November 3, 2010 at 12:30 pm
(93) JAMAL KHAN says:


hope you will be fine and ok. i think you are too much right, being a social worker we are dealing with a lot children and sometimes it happens that they are in a mood to hug or kiss one another and psychologicaly they are sharing their love and sometime sympathy with each other. SO it does not mean that they are on the wrong side

November 13, 2010 at 8:30 pm
(94) chlOleZ says:

okkkk. look. i have one question, i just hope i say it right. how come people are so … biased? there are gays. there are lesbians. there are bisexuals, and bi curious. there are transvestites and transgenders. and everyone here seems 2 say one of 3 things.
a) being anything but straight is bad and you are going to hell.
b) not being straight is great, works for me, and to hell with your opinion. see you there!
c) just because you are different doesn’t mean your going to hell.
hell. hell. hell. that is what everyone is worried about. god is accepting and condemning. god is omnipotent, and unknowing. God created us in gods image and therefore is cruel and kind at the same time. so then why do we think we can classify god as anything? according to many religions god has no sex, so no wonder so many people are confused. it is not as if god wanted life to be easy. i myself am confused about my sexual orientation and these comments have helped some. both my parents are straight but i have an aunt and an uncle who are gay. i also have friends who are bisexual. do i have a problem with this? not at all. but then again that is how i was raised. my dad is unaccepting. if he found out i was even thinking about other girls he would ship me off. but i cant help myself, no body can decide what they like. some people like ice cream and some don’t, do we make eating ice cream illegal because of that difference?

November 13, 2010 at 8:41 pm
(95) kOmI 13 XD says:

i am 13, and have recently realized that i am bi curious, most likely bi sexual. anyways, i will quit beating around the bush. if you kiss another girl it does not necessarily mean you are anything other than what you were before. sorry i know that doesnt help. but would you do it again? have you started seeing girls differently? just think about the basic things, i hope you figure it out.

December 2, 2010 at 9:16 am
(96) lilaa says:

Um so confused I don’t know what I am help me I scarrd

December 6, 2010 at 11:00 pm
(97) Kati says:

SEND ME TO HELL! PLEASE! I’m almost 16, completely bisexual, and loving it. So if I’m wrong, the please send me to hell, because I wouldn’t want to spend eternity in Heaven with a bunch of perfect people. I love the excitement, and the thrill of being with a girl. It’s great because I know what she wants and they know what I want. Guys, on the other hand, are a mystery that is fun to figure out. So, if any of you have a problem with that, then you can suck it :)

December 8, 2010 at 2:57 am
(98) dramaqueen says:

Let me just say that i am a christian, is in a christian school and my kids will probably be christians. First of all who cares if the bible said that a womans hand should be cut of for grabbing a man’s gentiles, i mean it is a bit harsh but why would anyone grab the man THERE, e.g. she could have grabbed him on the arm!!! And now for my opionion; I personally think it is wrong to be gay or whatever becuase everywhere in the bible they talk about the marriege between husband and wife, not wife an wife. But its not for us to deside who is wrong and who is right….the only one who can deside is God, standing in front of the heaven’s gates saying if your going to have eternal life in a burning pit of flames or clouds with al good things that you can imagine. So i personally wouldnt treat anybody different if they werent straight becuase in this my opinion doesnt really count. And please dont “fight”, cuase we all have the right to stand up for what we believe in!!!!

December 8, 2010 at 3:22 am
(99) dramaqueen says:

Too the ppl that say that if god made us the way we r then why is it wrong to do something that comes naturally…its becuase god is trying to test us and make us better christians. If you say no to something that the bible says is wrong it builds your faith but to do that youve got atleast believe what you write down (e.g. dont say u r a christian and then in the same message say your not religious)

December 8, 2010 at 3:27 am
(100) xoxoxo says:

“i like bananas
i think mangos r sweet
i like papayas
but nothing can beat that sweet love of GOD!!!”

December 28, 2010 at 12:53 pm
(101) Shanon says:

Why is being a lesbian so bad ima lesbian and it’s fun to play aaround with the same sex it’s interesting.

December 31, 2010 at 3:43 pm
(102) chinaman says:

This would not be an issue if only George Washington was president.

December 31, 2010 at 3:52 pm
(103) chinaman says:

“The word Christianity is already a misunderstanding — in reality there has been only one Christian, and he died on the Cross.” Nietzsche

January 3, 2011 at 10:08 pm
(104) Veronika says:

OK, about all the anti-gays,
this is the lgbt section.
Most people on here are lgbt, and they will -not- turn straight,
no matter how much you rant about how satan is consuming their bodies.

~*Christian bisexual and loving it*~

January 5, 2011 at 1:58 am
(105) E says:

obviously if your gay,lesbian,or bisexual
god made u that way

January 8, 2011 at 4:35 pm
(106) Atheist through and through. says:

Urghh, I hate closed-minded biggots.

And for all those people saying that God destroyed the city of Sodom because of gays, you might wanna study it abit more sweetie, because it’s actually about violence towards new comers in your town. :’)

Also, ‘The Bible’ condems a hell of a lot more heterosexual acts, than it does homosexual.

So stick that in your juicebox and suck it.

January 13, 2011 at 11:08 pm
(107) Ann says:

i agree with Bee
and what John said, being gay is not wrong, being ignorant and judgemental is wrong
i grow up around people with strong religious beliefs and its hard to be in a position being bi and having people put you down, they sau “o your a sinner your going to hell cause your bi” but God didn’t put us here to hate one another, he taught people to love eachother and treat others the way we would want to be treated so for people to be rude and ignorant to others means we should do the same to them (which im sure they wouldnt appreciate it) then they asked for it.

January 18, 2011 at 4:34 pm
(108) Veronica says:

I know I shouldn’t talk about God and religion here but as a girl raised in a strict catholic family, I can tell that being gay, to the God in the Bible is a sin and it must be punished. That’s what I’ve been told since I was little and when I grew up I decided that I can’t believe in a God who hates me for what I am.
I believe in god but not in the bible because I can’t believe in a contradictory god who loves everyone but not if tey are gay.
People who want to believe in the god of the bible and be gay at the same time are wrong.
Believe in your own god, who loves you really no matters what. Don’t let a corrupted book tell you how god is.

January 31, 2011 at 4:12 pm
(109) DB says:

Bee, I am not sure how old you are, but you sound young and excited about life and the love of Jesus and God. Those are wonderful things. But, regardless of how old you are, you seem open to the will of God. Maybe in a slightly self-serving way, but nonetheless, still possibly open. I would encourage you to hold onto the foundation of your beliefs, yet also continue to seek out the truth as God spells it out in the Bible. See, we’re all given great trials in our lives, Bee. We’re all given choices. That’s the deal. But choices don’t mean that all selections are appropriate in God’s eyes. We all have crosses to bear. Mine has been depression for many years (since I was a teen). My inclination is to feel guilty and possibly to just react to it in whatever way I feel like. But, when you have responsibilities to God and to this life, you realize that giving in to the challenges in our own way, in our own time and preference has great potential to move us further away from God. My point? We all have crosses to bear and being homosexual is such a cross to bear, but it doesn’t mean you are supposed to give in to it. Acknowledge your feelings, yes. Acknowledge your preferences verbally, sure, but acting out behaviors is another choice altogether. Please, I am not a position to judge. But as an older gal, I do pray for each of us to dare to take the road less traveled toward God and stop leaning on our own understanding when it says for us not to do that. I am just a random voice to help you reach your potential in Christ. Best wishes always and you are right, God DOES love you and wants the best for you, which means listening to His word and following through. Hang tight! Blessings.

January 31, 2011 at 5:09 pm
(110) Spop says:

I think I have crush on my best mate? What do I do?
I get really jealous when she’s with someone else and I’m really protective Am I a lesbian?

February 6, 2011 at 4:14 am
(111) Maybe Bi? says:

Okay, so I’m 15 and very mature for my age, but I think I might be Bi, or Lesbian maybe… I had my first gay experience when I was 13, and I enjoyed it heaps. But I don’t get the same feeling when I’m around guys. When I picture my future, I see myself with a girl.. Am I bi???

February 15, 2011 at 11:34 pm
(112) bayleigh says:

i make out with gurlz and boyz and i like it both but i dont know if im bi or if its just a stage im going through please help me!

February 22, 2011 at 4:08 pm
(113) boom says:

gt a boyfren who i love but i sth wish to have intimate wid relatnship wid order gurls. am i a lesbian or bi

March 13, 2011 at 3:21 pm
(114) Holly says:

I am a bisexual 13 year old and have just come out to my lesbian bff. I only had the courage to come out after she did.. I dont think that kissing another girl automatically makes you gay or bi, its how you feel inside.

March 31, 2011 at 3:11 am
(115) mzito says:

ok av read all ur comments en they have left me wondering en scared but if u see it bing good to homo sexual or lesbian it is fine but bing a bi l personally l don”t support it.

April 7, 2011 at 5:01 pm
(116) Donice says:

If God tries to take me to hell for being a gay I’ll sit down and refuse to go ha!.
Anyway my god is much nicer than those religious pricks god is

April 29, 2011 at 5:28 pm
(117) Sexkitten says:

LOVE KNOWS NO GENDER!!!! I don’t know if I like boys or girls. When I’m with a boy, all i think about is girls. And when I’m with a girl, all I can think about is her. I don’t know what to do.

May 19, 2011 at 4:29 pm
(118) 'Licia says:

- I’m 15 nd I’m so confused I have a bf but I’m always thinkin about girls n I’ve made out with girls b4 I would only date guys but be ok with doing sexual things with girls help me please!!!!

May 25, 2011 at 2:42 pm
(119) jessica says:

i am bi..and i love it.i am still in love with my ex and i have this girl we are not together she gives me all kinda signs..and i am starting to get confused

June 11, 2011 at 8:13 pm
(120) unknown........ says:

im christian, to be precise (penticoslte). Homesexuality is said to be a spirit. A spirit that can be transfered and this is probly the reason why many people who are straight become gay (bisexuals). However people who are gay or lez do not choose to be so!! i’m bi and maybe in denial cos i do not accept these feelings, because i do believe that they are not from god, and i believe that everything that is attatched to these feelings such as guilt, shame, insecurity and even suicidal feelings are all from the devil who wants to chain me down from what god has instore for my life. I’m in a spirutuall battle that has been really emotional for me because no one is aware of my feelings, its overwhelming to go thru all of this on my own, ive cried alot. I’ve questioned god so many times and ive asked him to heal me because i know that he says “i know the plans I have for u, the plans to prosper u and not to harm u” And because i havnt been healed and set free yet i’ve questioned god so much that ive become luke warm in my spiritual walk and im now almost back slidden.

I’ve fallin in love with my best friend, which i neva thought would happen cos despite being bi i had no physical attraction toward her in the beginning. When i started to develop feelings for her id pray and ask god to take those feelings away, id pray and ask god to help me love her in no other way except in the christ like way. (that is to be a witness and to share the love of christ)

Im not sure if shes bi or straight because she still goes on about guys and she says she wants a bf, i know she had a bf for two years b4 we met. Early in our frienship she would always make lez jokes, and say that im like her bf. I never took her seriously tho. She was once abit tipsy and asked if we could kiss and i politely said no cos i was too scared even tho i wanted to. 6 months later we kissed in a bathroom of a club.

June 11, 2011 at 8:14 pm
(121) unknown........ says:

were not best friends anymore cos we had a fight. Me being bi has complicated my frienship with her alot and i told god to cut our friendship if it is not of him. I know i could neva be in a relationship with her, my perants would neva accept it. And i know its not what god wants for me, I love god he has done so much for me and he’s blessed me abundantly and i know that his future has overwhelming blessing for my life and hers. I dont know how my healing will come and when it will come but i know that it will be abit of a journey, beacuse the devil will not lie to me and destroy my friendsships and lock me down with guilt and shame because my god is bigger and greater then that!

June 11, 2011 at 8:19 pm
(122) unknown........ says:

were not best friends anymore cos we had a fight. Me being bi has complicated my frienship with her alot and i told god to cut our friendship if it is not of him. I know i could neva be in a relationship with her, my perants would neva accept it. And i know its not what god wants for me, I love god he has done so much for me and he’s blessed me abundantly and i know that his future has overwhelming blessing for my life and hers. I dont know how my healing will come and when it will come but i know that it will be abit of a journey, beacuse the devil will not lie to me and destroy my friendsships and lock me down with guilt and shame because my god is bigger and greater then that!

and god loves everyone including bi’s gays and lesbians, he loves us so much that he wouldnt wanna leave us that way.

June 12, 2011 at 3:45 pm
(123) Glenna- confused says:

H.. I am a guy who is Bi? .. I am sexually attracted to women but see myself engaging in more lesbian type of encounters.. licking, touching, oral on her, not on me.. I don’t feel the urge to have guy on girl penatrative sex.. I also have an attraction to guys, but only as a passive, receptive partner .. never domnant .. Am I closest to being a transexual lesbian ?

July 28, 2011 at 5:39 am
(124) kiwi i no says:

Omg wht with all u guys in this gay bi crap u can’t control. Ppl if they want to be bi gay or whatever they should in wtf wht dose it have to do wht religion um.. of coarse. Religion. Or different. From others. So stop fukin. Saying it’s wrong to be this in tht did God said u should judg ppl were. All living. Humans on earth. So just shtup!! In get a life only God van be judging. Not u

August 28, 2011 at 11:11 am
(125) Jen says:

Being gay,lesbian,or bisexual is not wrong at all. I’m straight up bisexual so yea , I already kissed a girl but that’s a whatever I already have a relationship with a girl and I’m maintaining it that way,but it’s not wrong

September 24, 2011 at 10:07 pm
(126) da-bomb says:

i just found out my best friend is bi and im in deep shock
im striate…. but would it be werid if she kissed me or
i kissed her ……… i want to try something diffrent
thats why.

October 4, 2011 at 6:57 pm
(127) da-bomb says:

im 12 and my bff is bi only me and 1 other person know.
i think she likes ALOT it really bothers me.

Some help plesse

-I need help

November 2, 2011 at 5:16 pm
(128) saph says:

If you cant accept people who are diffrent from you then your gonna have a sad life, i feel sorry for you!

Im a teenager, and kind of unsure, but no one should judge anyone else, they dont understand how confusing it is!!

January 8, 2012 at 10:02 am
(129) ayla says:

da bomb – if ur bestfriend is a bi, u nid to accept since its one of her traits. u are her bestfriend so u should be the one to be there for her ryt? my bestfriend once kissed me when i told her that i love her. she doesnt put any malice in it. she accepted me even if i was like that. so i guess u should also accept her for who she is. :)

June 12, 2012 at 9:10 am
(130) Tandcmulder says:

I am bi also! I think that most Women are bi cause they get along more with women then with men! And I really hate to say this but now ever since I realized how much I love Women more then men I can’t help but look at other women stuff! But the one thing is that I can’t come out cause my family hates gay people they always talk bad about them and it hurts my feelings but I just ignore them and I am 27 almost 28 years old

March 15, 2013 at 2:11 pm
(131) soph says:

Being gay is perfectly “normal”. Stop discriminating others. we are all humans and it doesnt make a person weird or abnormal to like the same sex as them. Stop being childish. we are in a mixed sexuality world. just like we live in a mixed gender and mixed race world. go sort yourself out. i am not gay i am straight however people are entitled to their own feelings for anyone..

March 24, 2013 at 6:47 pm
(132) Adium says:

I’m a 21y old male and I’ve never had any sexual experiences with men before. However, I’ve always been attracted to penis’. Just the penis. Im attracted to women as well but the full deal not just their genitalia. I’ve heard bisexuality is sometimes explained as being able to love a person regardless of gender. For me it’s the complete opposite. It’s purely sexual. I’ve always spent the majority of my time with women and I’m in a profession dominated by women and I can relate to women very well. I can’t say the same about men.
I don’t know if what I feel can be defined as bisexuality or just being shallow but sometimes it’s very confusing and very difficult to explain to a long standing girlfriend as they simply take it as a sign I’m not attracted to them and I’m just “covering up the fact I’m gay”.
Does anybody else feel this way?

May 14, 2013 at 5:03 pm
(133) Honeyp says:

I’m 13bi and I don’t give a damn about what people say about god to be frank i don’t believe he exists and I might be rambling on a bit but those who don’t like it can go suck it you don’t control my life

June 21, 2013 at 1:50 am
(134) Dumbledoremeetsyoda says:

So I only really read the top of the thread. But some of these religious people need to remove their close minded opinions. I’m relatively straight lol but I’ve got nothing against homosexual people. What have they done against your “God”. Not abiding by a book that has nothing to validate it in terms of accuracy. I’m agnostic and a scientist, and I highly doubt God could care less whether a person is homosexual. I guess God would only condemn a homosexual if she/he has committed a REAL sin i.e. murder. But then that would make the sin murder not being homosexual. This article or question has nothing to do with religion in the first place – yes I realize I went on a bit of a rant but that’s only because the arrogance and stubbornness of religious people annoy me. I’m not saying that what you believe is wrong or right, I really couldn’t care less, but leave these people alone, you have no right to accuse them of sinning or shutting them down etc.

And secondly, the number of people who are unable to use simple English, spelling, grammar, etc. Seriously, go back to school. Unless of course it isn’t your primary language.

October 29, 2013 at 2:04 am
(135) Kastasia says:

No, being gay is not wrong. I am simply disgusted by people who dont support gays and bis and lesbians. Everyone is special or unique in their own way. They have the right to love who they want and we’re in no position to judge.

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