Sad Reminders That Homophobia Still Looms Large

A few recent news stories have served as sad reminders that even amidst positive developments for the gay communities, horrific events still occur far too often.
The past few days alone have seen some appalling stuff.
There was the random murder of a gay man in New York City, of which Reuters reports,
"Mark Carson, 32, was shot dead in Greenwich Village around midnight on Friday in what police are calling a hate crime. Others say it could be a backlash against the recent advance of gay marriage laws across the United States."
Then a story about a Texas judge who cited a "morality clause" to bar a lesbian couple from living together broke. As the AP reports:
"A judge has ruled that a North Texas lesbian couple can't live together because of a morality clause in one of the women's divorce papers. The clause is common in divorce cases in Texas and other states. It prevents a divorced parent from having a romantic partner spend the night while children are in the home. If the couple marries, they can get out from under the legal provision--but that is not an option for gay couples in Texas, where such marriages aren't recognized."
Then in Florida a teen is facing charges under statutory rape laws for a consentual sexual relationship she had with a younger girl at her school. Now this type of thing happens to opposite sex teen couples as well, but such laws are rarely applied fairly or uniformly.
These are obviously three very different stories, but they serve as a reminder that all over the country, whether it is in a state like New York, where gay marriage is legal, or in a place like Texas, where it is anything but, homophobia and its very dire consequence, remain a sad reality.
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Things are moving fast!
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This is an event that happens every year and which hopes to fight anti-gay bullying, harassment and discrimination in schools.
Teachers and students can take part by spending the day without talking. This is done as a reminder that even today, many GLBT individuals cannot talk openly about who they are.
This year's Day of Silence asks, "What will you do to end the silence?"
How would you answer that question?
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